Scared I may never see him again

[differentcountries]

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[Harlequin]

and if you again READ you will see I have looked into all options from him getting dropped off here us picking him up at his stepbrothers house, Me get a bus there but since taxis aren't available to go to his house that's not an option. I am willing to pay for a bus to get there but I would need a ride from the bus station to his house which I have no way of getting since taxi's do not go there... I have my uncle looking me a car since he gets scrap cars that sometimes nothing is wrong with, Just have to wait for him to actually find me one.

All your posts have been the same, so there's really not going to be much of a difference in the advice you're going to receive. If you're doing everything you can, then you're just going to have to wait for the pieces to fall into place. No one here can make his mom change his mind, and no one here can make traveling the 20 minutes easier for you. This is just a hurdle you're going to have to figure out to cross, and you're going to have to be patient about it. His mom won't break you two up if you both ignore her shit and figure out how to get around it. You're doomed to fail if you expect instantaneous results. If you understand that this is going to take time, then I don't really know why you keep posting the same exact story. You know you're going to get the same answers.

Furthermore, you're not going to get any sort of advice if you cop an attitude like that. No one is going to want to help someone with such a shitty attitude when we all have our own relationships to tend to. That was uncalled for.

[Honour]

I'm gonna link this video and just leave it at that.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

Seriously.

[Miasmata]

Until you get a car, look into carpooling services, or stuff like Lyft or Uber. See if you can catch rides with friends or other people once in a while. Also, why would no taxis drive to the bus station? If that's really the case, again, look into Lyft or Uber. In the end, it's just a matter of time until you have a car yourself, and then it's really no rocket science. Be practical and patient. Being pissed at the mom might be understandable, but it's a waste of energy when you could spend that energy at solving the issue. Take matters into your own hands!

[hmrambling]

In September, you said that you do not have your license because you cannot afford a car. What steps have you taken to get your license. Are you studying? Are you practicing? (Working on getting your license was suggested by members back in September).

You guys met in college last year. Are you still in college? How are you getting to/from college?

You also said that you were looking for a job. How is the job search going?

How does the transportation become everyone else's problem but yours and his? When are the two of you going to be responsible for travel instead of his mother?

In short: you disregard suggestions here, and make the transportation the responsibility of other people, then blame them. This is a sign of the maturity in the relationship. Perhaps his mother thinks that he should focus on work and/or school before a relationship. If that's the case, it is certainly understandable.

Stop being a victim and sitting there with victim mentality. Try to think about how you can take initiative here. Stop blaming others.

[LivingInWonderland]

I haven't read through the entire thread, so maybe I am just repeating what others have already said. But I am going to say this.... My boyfriends mom does not approve of his relationship with me. In fact, she hates me. She has forbidden me from seeing him. I won't get to see him again until he is 18, which is in another 9 months. It has already been 4 months since I have seen him. Sometimes s*** happens, and people are going to keep you from seeing your significant other. The difference between your circumstance and mine is that you are 21. I am 17. You can actually do something to change your circumstances, because you are a capable adult. You have to be willing to work for it, or you're not going to see him. You said you don't have your license because you can't afford a car. What are you doing to earn money for a car? If you really want to be able to see him, your only option is to find a way to earn the money for your own transportation.

You are an adult. You have so many options at your grasp because of that. You just have to reach for them, and no, it won't come with the snap of your fingers and yes it will take time. Long distance relationships are hard. They take work. Yeah, you may not be able to see him as often as you like. All you are going to be able to do right now is accept that, and start working towards a way to fix the problem at hand. I don't mean to sound harsh. But a lot of people on this forum, never get to see their SO's. Or hardly ever do. I have to go over a year without seeing mine. And ya know what? It's hard. I get that. It's hard not being able to see your SO, and it's hard having a mother constantly fighting your relationship and keeping you apart. Trust me, I get it! I am in the exact same spot. But I am still doing what I can to fix it. Just try to do the same. Don't give up. You'll get to see him. It just may not be when you want, and it might be a long while. But it will be worth it when you finally do see him.

You cant rely on his mother to make it possible for the two of you to see each other. You are both adults. If she doesn't want to escort him to you, she doesn't have to! So you need to find a way to make seeing each other possible, on your own. You can't blame her for not getting him to you. It's not her job. If you want to see him, and he wants to see you, you both need to be doing what you can to make that possible. As hmrambling said. You are not a victim. Nobody is going to make it possible for you to see him, but yourself.