This isn't really asking for advice, though if you wanna pitch in your two cents, I'm okay with that. It's more just a little vent than anything.
To anyone who keeps up with my posts, they know that my boyfriend works at a vape shop. He has recently pretty much gained it as his own, so he works 6 days a week, 10 hour shifts each day. His friends are all from the vaping community. In the passed, my boyfriend used to be really easily interested in a whole host of things, and be able to talk about all sorts of topics, even if they weren't necessarily what he was "interested" in or a hobby of his. Since moving and taking this shop as his own, and gaining friends who are only in the vaping community, literally all he can converse about is vaping. Even when I try and steer the conversation towards something else he can't seem to manage any sort of significant response. But when I bring up something vape-related? He's all over that like white on rice. It's like he's been SO INTENSELY immersed in this culture that he doesn't remember how to talk about anything else because he's talking about vaping literally over twelve hours a day, most days.
I've noticed that when I visit him or vice versa, and he's dragged from that sort of environment, I notice he "opens up" more and starts being able to converse more easily about other subjects again. I don't really think this is a coincidence.
I know he enjoys vaping and I don't mind him talking about it because I am interested in his passions, whether or not I'm into them or not. But when he can barely manage to talk about anything else...? It makes me miss the talk-about-everything-all-the-time boyfriend that I used to have.
To anyone who keeps up with my posts, they know that my boyfriend works at a vape shop. He has recently pretty much gained it as his own, so he works 6 days a week, 10 hour shifts each day. His friends are all from the vaping community. In the passed, my boyfriend used to be really easily interested in a whole host of things, and be able to talk about all sorts of topics, even if they weren't necessarily what he was "interested" in or a hobby of his. Since moving and taking this shop as his own, and gaining friends who are only in the vaping community, literally all he can converse about is vaping. Even when I try and steer the conversation towards something else he can't seem to manage any sort of significant response. But when I bring up something vape-related? He's all over that like white on rice. It's like he's been SO INTENSELY immersed in this culture that he doesn't remember how to talk about anything else because he's talking about vaping literally over twelve hours a day, most days.
I've noticed that when I visit him or vice versa, and he's dragged from that sort of environment, I notice he "opens up" more and starts being able to converse more easily about other subjects again. I don't really think this is a coincidence.
I know he enjoys vaping and I don't mind him talking about it because I am interested in his passions, whether or not I'm into them or not. But when he can barely manage to talk about anything else...? It makes me miss the talk-about-everything-all-the-time boyfriend that I used to have.
Comment