Frustrating problems of time management on different time zones

[sunmat]

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[JaneEmily]

As someone who used to talk until 4am to my SO on Whatsapp after we would Skype until 11pm, I understand how it feels. It's really important for her to get the right amount of sleep and I think you're thinking along the right track with limiting how long you Skype for so it ensures she can get some proper rest. What me and my SO do nowadays is if he has work in the morning, we'll say night at 10.30pm (UK time) so he can get a good amount of sleep in before he starts work the next morning. Sometimes we'll be in the middle of an important topic and feeling awkward that we have to suddenly cut it short, but we're quite flexible regarding it. We'll sometimes stay 10-15minutes longer just to get the conversation concluded and things out in the open so we don't get to bed feeling weird and like things were left unsaid, but my SO can still get the right amount of sleep. I think it really depends on what you want to do, talk it with your GF and see how she responds about every other day having less time to talk (so stop at skype 1:30am instead of straight away not skyping as she might seem like this is a punishment because she's been busy when it's not) so she gets into a better night routine. Sure it sucks only being able to talk for 1 hour to maybe 2 but it'll be better than nothing AND she'll get her sleep back on schedule.

[C.C.]

Time management skills and especially while being in ldr, are my weakest points.
I can't help but want to be there when he's still awake and I went to sleep mostly at 4am thanks to that. Doesn't help that he's not the best at time managing atm either.
And the worst thing is that I sucked at this before too and because o being used to it, I can't fall asleep for hours even if I go to sleep early .
Anyway, I'd like to hear what people have to say about this topic as well.

[80anthea]

I think you need to talk to her and come up with a solution together. By all means share your concerns but don't force 'rules' on her. She's an adult, she is responsible for her own well-being!

[sasad]

Agreed... Suggestions are better than rules, unless you both agree on something like that...like she makes the suggestion..
By all means, tell her your concerns and let her know you want to help as well as worry about her health etc. talk about it together and come up with solutions to try. It may take a couple different options to make something work.

That being said. I sometimes stay up way to late and actually fall asleep on skype.

[Elizabeth123]

Why not plan a weekly schedule TOGETHER? You are both adults and need to develop the relationship so you can support each other.
Maybe have a marathon night on weekend when you can both sleep in? Best wishes to you.

[sunmat]

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[sasad]

Woot! Love it when it all works out so nicely. happy for you both as you will both start to get more of what you need.