So, yeah. Another Break Up post.

[whatruckus]

It just wasn't working. We're not in the right place to be together. Neither of us has our lives together. At all. I think it was just really bad timing. Because every time before he would slip back into Depression, we were perfect. It just seems his PTSD and Depression won this time. And, me and my trust issues (thanks Ex) didn't help. I was also afraid to be independent and afraid to pack up and move to him and I think he felt that and it hurt him. When we talked about going on a break a few months ago, he brought up that I didn't try to close the distance. And, he brought it up last April. So, I knew that it was big concern of his.

Oh well. We're going to still be friends, and he says he still wants to talk to me, because we don't hate each other. I hope maybe, once we've gotten ourselves together, we can try again. But, I'm also not going to hold out hope. I've been taking my own advice lately.

I picked up my stuff from his house today. He looked really sad. He wouldn't look at me, and we didn't really talk to each other. I hate how when he's upset, he keeps to himself. We didn't hug, or kiss good bye. I didn't want to break down, at least not until I got into the car, and I knew he didn't want to or he'd get upset. He looked like he was going to cry when I was leaving.

I don't know guys. This hurts way worse than being cheated on. Two people who still love each other, walking away, because it just wasn't our time. It sucks.

I'm obviously still going to be on here. I love this community and the friends that I've made.

I don't really want to call him my "Ex" though. I don't what I should call him. I feel "Ex" is a harsh word, or best left to someone who did you wrong.

Thank you all for your advice about us. I really do appreciate it. I know that the picture I painted of him on here probably wasn't the best, but that's also because I tend to vent more when I'm mad.

[differentcountries]

Oh no... I would be lying if I said I am surprised, but I am still so very sad about it. I can feel your pain though the net. Please stay around! Many hugs

[sasad]

I am so so sorry... And yes, ex is not a good word for you.
Take time to heal and process all of this. We are here for you as you have been here for us. xo

[snow_girl]

I think this is definitely for the best. I know it still sucks, but it'll get better

[whatruckus]

Mental Illness can suck it. Because me and him have some form.

Thanks guys.

[R&R]

I'm sorry but I am glad you aren't in that limbo mode anymore. It is harder when there isn't animosity but you are actually doing it for the right reasons. I'm glad you're staying.

[Miasmata]

I'm so sorry to hear this, but at the same time I also think you are taking all the right lessons and consequences from this. It really doesn't seem to be your time. It might be in the future, it might not be, but either way, you both would really do good to take this opportunity to really, really focus on yourselves and your mental health. No matter what life has in store for you two, that will not go amiss no matter what.

I sincerely wish all the best for you, you deserve it.

[Elizabeth123]

This is your time to heal and hopefully he can find help and get better. Maybe you can think of him as a best friend who could be so much more in time...?
I am sending you lots of good vibes and wishes for a very bright future that makes you happy

[TheSteelAngel]

Hugs Like I told you before, I'll always be there for you. I'm so glad we became friends, and it's really terrible that we both got the same "bad ending". Though it makes sense since our SO's were like clones of each other lol. They will forever be idiots and we will always be gorgeous, smart women lol. Thank you so much for being there for me, and although this may suck now we both can get through this

[Redheart14]

I guess like the others have said it's probably for the best. Im sorry for you though. Take this time to make yourself the number one priority. I hope you stay on here as you've always got great advice to give. We're all here for you if you need to talk. Maybe things will sort themselves out. I'm the meantime focus on yourself you deserve it.

[ChloChlo]

Oh , I feel for you. You are right that the pain of two people breaking up despite wanting to be together is a special kind of sadness. I have been in a similar situation, and it hurts so much. Why is it that doing what's best sometimes feels like the worst? But the others are right that you deserve so much more happiness and that it is waiting for you out there Take time for yourself now and treat yourself like the goddess you are!

[emsimes]

Sending big hugs your way, girl!!
You know we're all here for you if you need anything. Take good care of yourself

[C.C.]

Awww, so sad
I wish you the happiness you deserve, be it alone or with him in the future.
It must hurt so much, I don't really know what to say, but take your time, it's okay to feel this way now and then focus on yourself and your life :3
*hugs*

[Unicorn26]

Oh poppet, I'm so sad to hear this...

I know exactly the feeling you are going through. I once had a boyfriend that I loved very much, we were both head over heels but it was the wrong time. Breaking up when we still loved each other was a pain that I've never felt before or since, it took me a long time to get over it. I still think about him occasionally. We cut contact completely though because it hurt too much to remain freinds.

My thoughts are with you, I hope you are ok. You are stronger than you think, you will get through this but it might take a while. I'm gals you're still gonna hang around, you give superb advice and I value your opinion. Your straight talking has helped me on many occasions and I'm sure others would agree with that too.

Sending you lots of love, strength and positive vibes from across the pond xxx

[80anthea]

look after yourself and stay around on here if you want to.