Hello all. I've posted my story on here before but I hope people don't mind me sharing again.
Basically me and my SO met 16 months ago whilst he was back at home (he lives abroad but is originally from the UK and is planning to move home eventually). At the time, the distance became too much and he took the decision to end things.
Since then, we've both dated other people but couldn't stop thinking about each other. This Christmas we got back in touch again and have been chatting most days ever since. Up until now I haven't pushed anything because I've just wanted to get to know him again.
I decided to go out and see him so we could explore where we're at and spend some time together. It was a visit full of emotional highs and lows and probably a bit too much talking things through rather than just enjoying the time together. I spent a lot of the week worrying about having to leave him again which I really regret now but for some reason I just couldn't control my emotions. I feel like I may have messed things up a bit because I wasn't my usual self. I became very needy and clingy which is so unlike me.
We talked a lot about where we are at. Neither of us want to mess it up this time. However I laid my cards on the table and told him that I want to make this work. He says he does too, but is reluctant to rush into things like we did last year. He says he wants to see how the next few months go and then meet again so we can explore whether we're both able to cope with the distance this time around. He says he's scared that if it doesn't work that we'll end up not speaking again and mess the future up completely. Yet I feel that if we don't give it a proper go then how will we ever know?!
He says if he was in the UK that we would 100% be together properly. But although he would move back tomorrow if he could, his career is keeping him where he is for now and he doesn't want to make any false promises in case it doesn't happen as soon as we both want it to. I met a lot of his friends and they say that he absolutely adores me and they all refer to me as his future wife.
So am feeling a few post visit blues. In hindsight, I wish I'd spent less time worrying about defining the relationship and more time just enjoying his company. Feeling a bit disappointed that he didn't want to just 'go for it', but I also understand what he's saying at the same time.
Any thoughts would be more than welcomed.
Basically me and my SO met 16 months ago whilst he was back at home (he lives abroad but is originally from the UK and is planning to move home eventually). At the time, the distance became too much and he took the decision to end things.
Since then, we've both dated other people but couldn't stop thinking about each other. This Christmas we got back in touch again and have been chatting most days ever since. Up until now I haven't pushed anything because I've just wanted to get to know him again.
I decided to go out and see him so we could explore where we're at and spend some time together. It was a visit full of emotional highs and lows and probably a bit too much talking things through rather than just enjoying the time together. I spent a lot of the week worrying about having to leave him again which I really regret now but for some reason I just couldn't control my emotions. I feel like I may have messed things up a bit because I wasn't my usual self. I became very needy and clingy which is so unlike me.
We talked a lot about where we are at. Neither of us want to mess it up this time. However I laid my cards on the table and told him that I want to make this work. He says he does too, but is reluctant to rush into things like we did last year. He says he wants to see how the next few months go and then meet again so we can explore whether we're both able to cope with the distance this time around. He says he's scared that if it doesn't work that we'll end up not speaking again and mess the future up completely. Yet I feel that if we don't give it a proper go then how will we ever know?!
He says if he was in the UK that we would 100% be together properly. But although he would move back tomorrow if he could, his career is keeping him where he is for now and he doesn't want to make any false promises in case it doesn't happen as soon as we both want it to. I met a lot of his friends and they say that he absolutely adores me and they all refer to me as his future wife.
So am feeling a few post visit blues. In hindsight, I wish I'd spent less time worrying about defining the relationship and more time just enjoying his company. Feeling a bit disappointed that he didn't want to just 'go for it', but I also understand what he's saying at the same time.
Any thoughts would be more than welcomed.
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