My SO and I met when I was moving out of state back home to be closer to my family. A lot had happened before meeting him in a previous relationship leading me to wanting/needing to return home to get my life back up and going and the plan was/is to return to that state where he still is. Our biggest issue on my end it seems is communication. He always seems chill/relaxed about the whole relationship like everything is great.
That's my biggest issue is that I know he's busy with work, family, friends etc but hell so am I but I still make time for him. He forgets to call, if I call him he will say he'll call me back but won't at times. He sometimes takes hours to reply to a message even though he's seen it and has had free time to post, like and share things on Facebook. He's made comments to me before about doing that and how it made him feel and I got better at responses and he does great for a week or so but then slips back into the old habit of just getting to me when he feels like it kinda thing.
It makes me sad to go back through and read old messages where we'd communicate all the time and even with him at work he'd reply rather quickly. But it seems like the moment we said we'd be a couple is when he started slacking on the communication end.
Some days it feels as though we are friends who say they love each other or sometimes talk about things etc who meet up every few months. With me being the one that always travels. Not complaining on that because I love traveling to see him, I just wish it were more of an effort on his part as he says he wants to come visit and was supposed to but funds were limited and he couldn't.
I feel like I'm complaining about mundane bs compared to others but Somedays I do feel like walking away just because I don't feel like I'm that important to him. I have told him on how I feel about walking away and he is always saddened by that thought of me giving up and I feel awful mentioning it the times that I have as that is the last thing I want but Idk how to get him to understand that the lack of communication sometimes bugs me and makes me feel unwanted/unloved/not needed. Especially seems how I go out of my way to make him feel all those things because I don't want him to feel how I feel. He says he loves me and when we talk I can hear it in his voice. I just want to fix this.
I think the distance gets to me way more than it does him. I believe him when he says that he wants this, that he's very happy in our relationship, as am I on a lot of days. I know he's loyal, he cares more about video games and family than anything lol as I do as I love my PlayStation as well lol There's just that one thing that bugs me so much.
That's my biggest issue is that I know he's busy with work, family, friends etc but hell so am I but I still make time for him. He forgets to call, if I call him he will say he'll call me back but won't at times. He sometimes takes hours to reply to a message even though he's seen it and has had free time to post, like and share things on Facebook. He's made comments to me before about doing that and how it made him feel and I got better at responses and he does great for a week or so but then slips back into the old habit of just getting to me when he feels like it kinda thing.
It makes me sad to go back through and read old messages where we'd communicate all the time and even with him at work he'd reply rather quickly. But it seems like the moment we said we'd be a couple is when he started slacking on the communication end.
Some days it feels as though we are friends who say they love each other or sometimes talk about things etc who meet up every few months. With me being the one that always travels. Not complaining on that because I love traveling to see him, I just wish it were more of an effort on his part as he says he wants to come visit and was supposed to but funds were limited and he couldn't.
I feel like I'm complaining about mundane bs compared to others but Somedays I do feel like walking away just because I don't feel like I'm that important to him. I have told him on how I feel about walking away and he is always saddened by that thought of me giving up and I feel awful mentioning it the times that I have as that is the last thing I want but Idk how to get him to understand that the lack of communication sometimes bugs me and makes me feel unwanted/unloved/not needed. Especially seems how I go out of my way to make him feel all those things because I don't want him to feel how I feel. He says he loves me and when we talk I can hear it in his voice. I just want to fix this.
I think the distance gets to me way more than it does him. I believe him when he says that he wants this, that he's very happy in our relationship, as am I on a lot of days. I know he's loyal, he cares more about video games and family than anything lol as I do as I love my PlayStation as well lol There's just that one thing that bugs me so much.
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