We got caught.. Like 30 mins ago

[douglas2275]

Tiffany's family does not know about me. I explained it in some detail. She does not drive and she does not have friends, she either is working or at home with her family.

I see her about once a week, I drive to her work (movie theater) and she sneaks me in and I'll watch a show and periodically throughout my visit she will sneak in and see me. It's hard not seeing her but we do this when we can (has to be a time she works and I do not.) It's not about the movie. I'm not trying to steal, it is just the only way I can see her.

Today I called in sick at work, I'm about to go on a mini vacation back to Maine to see my family and I just wanted to see her once before I leave. I got here and things were going smoothly, I was in the theater, the auditorium I was in was empty. I watched the movie as I waited for her to visit me. She was about to go on break so she came in and I saw her for a bit. She left and went on break.

Upon returning from break she stopped in to visit me. I was kissing her and saying goodbye to her since it's the only chance I will get. She was sitting on my lap kissing me. Her coworker came in and saw us like this

Her coworker (Laura) radioed the manager as tiffany and Laura left the auditorium. I was escorted out of the building and threatened with immediate police invovment if I do this again. Tiffany was thretened with being fired and now everyone thinks she was in there having sex (which we weren't). She's afraid the rumors will make it to her parents and we are both devistate. this was the only way I could see her.

I am trying to comfort her, she's embarrassed and very upset. She thinks everyone is judging her and thinking she is a slut. As of this very second she is trying to finish her shift but she just keeps crying im down the street from her right now and I want to conform her and don't know what to do.

[Redheart14]

I'm sorry this has happened. I guess it's a risk that you get caught when you're hiding your relationship from people. Is it worth being open with her family and telling them about you, before they hear it through other people. At least it'd be coming from you and her directly.

[douglas2275]

I'm going to have a talk with her when she gets home, she has a lot on her mind right now. This is also my fear. I think I would be better to be honest as well. Not to mention I probably will never see her again unless we tell her parents perhaps it was a good thing and we can finally stop hiding.

[sasad]

We live and learn.... It is never ever a good idea to sit on anybody's lap at work or in a work environment. And you are correct HR could fire her for that for multiple reasons. Not just the sex or assuming you're having sex but for inappropriate behavior and even if she's on her break if it's not clock out for lunch she still technically on the clock. If she was wearing a work uniform that's even worse. You may not considered stealing back going into the movies for free is stealing. You were lucky you were just escorted out.
As far as everybody thinking she's a slut… Again it's better to have this relationship out in the open
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You have just been hit but one thing after another the last few weeks and I really feel for you. I do see you were planning on going back home so is your family being more receptive of you ?

It probably is a good idea to get introduced to her family before things get so bad it's going to be almost impossible to fix. If you can take the time away from her this weekend it's probably a good idea to let everything cool down.

I will be keeping you both in my prayers

[douglas2275]

I'm very legalistically minded and I know what I was doing was wrong and it was stealing. I wrote note apologizing and put it on her bosses car with $15. I guess he cooled down and was trying to comfort Tiffany because she could not stop crying.

My family (primarily my mother) hate Tiffany. They hate my decision to move here and will not support me or my relationship in any way, however, they are allowing me to come home for a visit, my grandparents flew out from California and they want me to be able to see them.

I want to tell Tiffany's parents, I needs to happen, but perhaps after I get back from Maine?

[Ejoriah]

From your other thread I understood why she didn't want to tell her parents about you due to you meeting online, but it's been what... three months since you moved? That's plenty of time for her to come up with a story about how you two met in PA.

It will be much better for the two of you once you don't have to snoop around to see each other. I admire your patience for putting up with it, because I wouldn't be able to.

[Chris516]

I'm very legalistically minded and I know what I was doing was wrong and it was stealing. I wrote note apologizing and put it on her bosses car with $15. I guess he cooled down and was trying to comfort Tiffany because she could not stop crying.

My family (primarily my mother) hate Tiffany. They hate my decision to move here and will not support me or my relationship in any way, however, they are allowing me to come home for a visit, my grandparents flew out from California and they want me to be able to see them.

I want to tell Tiffany's parents, I needs to happen, but perhaps after I get back from Maine?

I re-read your OP several times. To see where you MIGHT have committed a crime. I don't see anything remotely close to even a misdemeanor. If her boss kicked you off the property. That is between you n' her boss.

I do understand why you said. That that was the only way you could see her, and the potential rumors from the rumor mill.

[sasad]

I re-read your OP several times. To see where you MIGHT have committed a crime. I don't see anything remotely close to even a misdemeanor. If her boss kicked you off the property. That is between you n' her boss.

I do understand why you said. That that was the only way you could see her, and the potential rumors from the rumor mill.

Its a felony or larceny charge in most states...

Gaining entry to the movie theater without paying and lying to the ticket-taker means that you are in effect stealing the theater's services, which is technically larceny. Larceny generally refers to the stealing of property. But in many states, including Pennsylvania, stealing services is illegal may even result in jail time. Telling the ticket-tearer that you just need to quickly use the restroom -- and then watching all of "Iron Man 3" -- is legally similar to dining and dashing, and both of them are illegal theft. - See more at: https://blogs.findlaw.com/blotter/20....OrdsApvD.dpuf

[sasad]

I'm very legalistically minded and I know what I was doing was wrong and it was stealing. I wrote note apologizing and put it on her bosses car with $15. I guess he cooled down and was trying to comfort Tiffany because she could not stop crying.

My family (primarily my mother) hate Tiffany. They hate my decision to move here and will not support me or my relationship in any way, however, they are allowing me to come home for a visit, my grandparents flew out from California and they want me to be able to see them.

I want to tell Tiffany's parents, I needs to happen, but perhaps after I get back from Maine?

Sometimes moms are silly..Why does she hate her so much??? Is it because she wants to keep her baby close or is there something else? I am assuming your grandparents are supportive?


I think that would be a wise idea to meet her parents. That way you get a lot of that stress gone. Hopefully her parents will relax and be fine with your relationship.

[douglas2275]

As far and telling her parents,yeahiI've been here 3 months and the trouble is Tiffany does nothing and is almost never out in ppublic. There is almost no way I could meet her.


My mom hates Tiffany for a few reasons. Primarily because she is stealing me away but also because she's super religious. My mother does not approve of dating. Also Tiffany has extream anxiety and becomes very upset because of it. We mostly comunicate through texts.. Which means there is record of what we say. I can't remember what was sed or why but Tiffany was upset at my mom (I probably told her my mom was making me do or something) and any time Tiffany is upset she become very vulgar and says things she does not mean. My mother does not understand this. Well my mom got into my iPad and saw some colorful messages and also after further snooping she found nude photos of both Tiffany and myself. Try explaining sexting to a highly strict and conservative Christian mother. She said things like "she just opens her legs to you and she has you on a leash it's not even love".


I don't know how the grand pparents feel.

Things will be okay eventually but I know the first step is telling Tiffany's parents.

[sasad]

You're are both of legal age. Your mom will either deal with it or won't. My dad and mom thought I was "getting intimite" with a guy because they though I had a hicky. I am the rebellious wild child and responded back....oh you mean am I having sex?? Hah I am from a Catholic family with a stay at home mom and 6 siblings.... So I get the religion.

Your mom hasn't ever approved of your relationships, so at least you know it's just not Tiffany.. Not that that makes it better, but at least you know it's mom...
There is nothing you can do but tell her you love her and are going to build a life with Tiffany if possible, and you would like her blessings ( I didn't say approval) ...if not, then you are sorry she feels that way.

With Tiffanys parents....she works in a public place. That would be so easy to explain!