Hi everyone.
I have been in a long distance relationship for a little over three years now.
I have been happy, it has always been wonderful to visit him, and I have spent a little over a year in total visiting him.
We met online, and were friends for three years before we fell for each other. We quickly decided that I would go visit him during Easter three months after we had realized we had feelings for each other. The visit was magical from the first minute on. We connected as well in person as we had online, and we fell in love during my two month visit. As the years have gone by, I have visited him more and more, and stayed longer each time. I have noticed that he becomes absent a few weeks before I leave, as if he wants me to leave sooner so he can go back to living how he does when I'm not there.
I just want to add, that I encourage him to spend time with his friends, and tell him that he needs some time for himself, just as I do when I'm there, which is healthy for any relationship. However, it feels more and more like he is more comfortable spending his time alone than he does with me.
The past three times I've gone to visit him, I've done nothing but clean, make food and do the laundry. It seems like he is getting more and more used to living alone than he is spending time with me.
My issue is, that he has never once come to visit me.
Whenever I have brought up the question of him coming to visit me, he closes off and pushes me away. He gets somewhat angry and frustrated about it.
He has always said that he has wanted to come see me, but there have always been complications in the way.
But each time I have come to visit him, I have been told by his friends and family that he has no interest in visiting my country, and even laugh about the mere idea of him going to visit me.
His boss even baffled me when he told me that he had urged him to visit me, and even offered him a longer vacation so he could visit me for a few months.
This baffled me, as I was told that his boss refused to let him travel, and needed him at work.
So after three years I'm sitting here wondering if I am in a dead-end relationship, and feel like I deserve to be in a relationship where the one I love wants to see me as much as I want to see him.
I haven't seen him in 8 months because I haven't had the finances to go visit, and I honestly think I wanted/needed to see if he would actually come see me if I didn't visit him.
He is a very sweet, loving person, but I don't know what to think anymore.
Is it just me, or is it time to move on and realize this relationship won't go anywhere unless I move to his country?
We have spoken about me moving over to him, I even got all the paperwork I needed and packed my stuff, but the only thing that was missing was paperwork from him, which he never got around to fix.
I feel like there's something he is keeping from me, but I don't understand what it might be, since I have no friends with long distance relationship experience.
I don't know how men deal with being in a long distance relationship, and I might just not understand how it is, and this might be what is causing me to doubt my relationship.
There is so much more to say, but I have tried to keep it as short as possible.
Thank you for reading!
-Jaybee
I have been in a long distance relationship for a little over three years now.
I have been happy, it has always been wonderful to visit him, and I have spent a little over a year in total visiting him.
We met online, and were friends for three years before we fell for each other. We quickly decided that I would go visit him during Easter three months after we had realized we had feelings for each other. The visit was magical from the first minute on. We connected as well in person as we had online, and we fell in love during my two month visit. As the years have gone by, I have visited him more and more, and stayed longer each time. I have noticed that he becomes absent a few weeks before I leave, as if he wants me to leave sooner so he can go back to living how he does when I'm not there.
I just want to add, that I encourage him to spend time with his friends, and tell him that he needs some time for himself, just as I do when I'm there, which is healthy for any relationship. However, it feels more and more like he is more comfortable spending his time alone than he does with me.
The past three times I've gone to visit him, I've done nothing but clean, make food and do the laundry. It seems like he is getting more and more used to living alone than he is spending time with me.
My issue is, that he has never once come to visit me.
Whenever I have brought up the question of him coming to visit me, he closes off and pushes me away. He gets somewhat angry and frustrated about it.
He has always said that he has wanted to come see me, but there have always been complications in the way.
But each time I have come to visit him, I have been told by his friends and family that he has no interest in visiting my country, and even laugh about the mere idea of him going to visit me.
His boss even baffled me when he told me that he had urged him to visit me, and even offered him a longer vacation so he could visit me for a few months.
This baffled me, as I was told that his boss refused to let him travel, and needed him at work.
So after three years I'm sitting here wondering if I am in a dead-end relationship, and feel like I deserve to be in a relationship where the one I love wants to see me as much as I want to see him.
I haven't seen him in 8 months because I haven't had the finances to go visit, and I honestly think I wanted/needed to see if he would actually come see me if I didn't visit him.
He is a very sweet, loving person, but I don't know what to think anymore.
Is it just me, or is it time to move on and realize this relationship won't go anywhere unless I move to his country?
We have spoken about me moving over to him, I even got all the paperwork I needed and packed my stuff, but the only thing that was missing was paperwork from him, which he never got around to fix.
I feel like there's something he is keeping from me, but I don't understand what it might be, since I have no friends with long distance relationship experience.
I don't know how men deal with being in a long distance relationship, and I might just not understand how it is, and this might be what is causing me to doubt my relationship.
There is so much more to say, but I have tried to keep it as short as possible.
Thank you for reading!
-Jaybee
Comment