I'm in a new LDR. This is all very new to me. I met him about two months ago on a one off date whilst I was in a foreign country (1500 miles away) and I think we liked each other way more than we'd planned and we kept in touch and agreed I'd go back and visit, which I did last week where I stayed with him for five nights and it was amazing. We had a tough talk about us on the last night and agreed that although it is going to be hard we will try it and see what happens. He kept mentioning his main worry was sustainability though...long term. And I agree. It has only been a week home from seeing him and it is hard already, but even harder with this shadow in the background of "is there any point seeing as we have no way out?"
However, last week I was doing some applications for something I'm wanting to do. There's no need to go into details but something clicked and I thought of a way that we could close the distance in January and it's also logical and rationale, as well as requiring no sacrifice from any of us. Basically, I can remove him from the equation and it is still appealing.
I haven't mentioned this to him because I didn't want to scare him. One side of me thinks I shouldn't mention it yet in case he gets a bit overwhelmed, the other side thinks that if we know we have a goal then the gap will be so much easier. I am unsure. Everything I read about LDRs says that in order to be successful they really need an end goal as to when you'll close the distance, but I am constantly left wondering "but when do you talk about this?". In a local relationship you'd never talk about your future after knowing someone two months, but is it different with this? I don't know whether to keep this plan to myself for now or mention it to him and see how he reacts.
Any advice would be appreciated.
However, last week I was doing some applications for something I'm wanting to do. There's no need to go into details but something clicked and I thought of a way that we could close the distance in January and it's also logical and rationale, as well as requiring no sacrifice from any of us. Basically, I can remove him from the equation and it is still appealing.
I haven't mentioned this to him because I didn't want to scare him. One side of me thinks I shouldn't mention it yet in case he gets a bit overwhelmed, the other side thinks that if we know we have a goal then the gap will be so much easier. I am unsure. Everything I read about LDRs says that in order to be successful they really need an end goal as to when you'll close the distance, but I am constantly left wondering "but when do you talk about this?". In a local relationship you'd never talk about your future after knowing someone two months, but is it different with this? I don't know whether to keep this plan to myself for now or mention it to him and see how he reacts.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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