My LDR of two months randomly told me that he thinks us talking everyday is excessive. This was when we were last together in person. I was a bit taken aback because he often initiates the convos and he's never seemed off.
So I asked for more details. He said he wasn't meaning it one sided and that he was distracting himself from his work by constantly hoping I'd texted so checking his phone etc. I asked him if he meant text or verbal and he said he hadn't really thought about that.
It's created a problem in that I am now hesitant to initiate the conversation in case he doesn't want to talk. I'm not very good with rejection so I'd much rather just wait for him to talk to me but I feel that isn't the healthiest outlook. I end up just constantly checking my phone. I also can't help but feel slightly offended even though he is entitled to his own opinion about it.
Would you feel offended if your long distance partner said that?
We are still early days so haven't found the balance of communication yet.
So I asked for more details. He said he wasn't meaning it one sided and that he was distracting himself from his work by constantly hoping I'd texted so checking his phone etc. I asked him if he meant text or verbal and he said he hadn't really thought about that.
It's created a problem in that I am now hesitant to initiate the conversation in case he doesn't want to talk. I'm not very good with rejection so I'd much rather just wait for him to talk to me but I feel that isn't the healthiest outlook. I end up just constantly checking my phone. I also can't help but feel slightly offended even though he is entitled to his own opinion about it.
Would you feel offended if your long distance partner said that?
We are still early days so haven't found the balance of communication yet.
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