How much access?

[Riyko]

I know all of my ex's passwords for his email accounts, facebook, ect. I even know his pin numbers for all of his debit cards. He doesn't have any of my passwords or pins though.

[ChrisxTosha]

If he wants any of my usernames and passwords for any given site, I have no issue giving them to him.

We intend to spend our lives together, I think he has at least some justification to want to make sure nothing under-the-tables going on.

[Andy]

I agree with the majority of replies here, Tanja hasn't got any of my passwords because they're my accounts. Same reason why I don't have any of hers. Even though we're a couple, I think you still need your own space, or cyber space or even privacy, whatever you want to call it.

If she ever needs them for whatever reason then of course I wouldn't hesitate in giving her that sort of info, but otherwise I don't see any need for it at all quite frankly.

I know her password to get onto her laptop, or I used to, it was very long and I've forgotten it now

[Lunar Snow]

This is an interesting topic. I have actually found that when past boyfriends have given me their passwords for different things, that I have not been seeking...but have stumbled onto things that are hurtful (e.g. one had Photobucket and I didn't want to make an account for uploading artwork to a site we both went to, so he shared it with me and then I went in there to upload a photo and, in his very small gallery that was all visible on one page...so I couldn't help seeing, I found some racy photos that upset me--in his case, it was either that he was really stupid or that he was being his manipulative self and actually wanted me to find them, who knows). Often, too, those guys would want to do a sort of password exchange on certain accounts and they were quite the controlling types (so I think that they gave me their passwords out of wanting to monitor my movements, more than trusting me).

Consequently, I have had some bad experiences that make me unlikely to share my account information or think it a good idea to have my partner's account information. There are certain accounts I would never share (as said, about basic internet safety), like my student email account, Facebook account, etc. My current partner and I have never had any discussions about sharing account information (he is a self-proclaimed "private" person and I'm not sure it would be a good idea...so we never have gone there). However, I will admit (and I don't think this makes me a jerk, just offering a different perspective) that if I had some of his account information, I would be sorely tempted to snoop! For me, it is because we have had some issues in the past that would make my trust shaky (and looking to find out about things) and I am quite a curious person, to top it off; however, we are both working hard to heal those trust issues and as much as something like that would feed my curiosity (which is getting better), it wouldn't work for our relationship.

(As an aside, though, if I ever passed away unexpectedly, I would like for someone out there to be able to retrieve my emails, etc. They might give some clues that I ate something funny, or whatever. Maybe that's a morbid thought, but it does come to mind to me sometimes).

[Moon]

You know, I don't think we've even thought about it, we just don't have any reason for it. When things come up though, we don't think twice, he's got all my passport and bank account info, I have access to his computer. The passport was so he could book a trip we took to Russia, the bank account was because I can get certain things way more cheaply and with a lot more variety than he can, so he transfers me the money and I ship it out to him. I can get into his computer to steal movies and stuff. As time goes on I guess we kinda fall into these sort of things, but it's always out of necessity. Honestly, I wouldn't want his passwords, some things you should just have to yourself. Besides, we work together, it's not like he can hide

[sam]

She knows my password to get on to my laptop and that's it, really... I dont use anything else that needs a password

I've seen her type in, and she's told me her facebook password, but I forgot it hah. Dont really see any need to know it :s

[MTK]

I don't see any problem with my SO knowing all my passwords if it was necessary. I mean, i trust her and i don't have anything to hide. Sure privacy is important but to me i don't mind sharing those passwords one bit as what i have on the web isn't really all that.. private.

[Zephii]

I've had trust issues with Obi before, so he's taken the passwords off his computer. I can access all his accounts from there if I want to. I don't know the password to one of his email accounts, or to his bank stuff. But I would expect him to hand over passwords to anything other than bank related stuff if I asked for it, and I'd do the same for him.

He doesn't know most of my passwords and doesn't want them, but could access anything from my pc anyway. He knows my bank pin, and some of my online banking stuff... *shrugs* I don't have secrets, because I don't think of him as a seperate individual

[LadyMarchHare]

(As an aside, though, if I ever passed away unexpectedly, I would like for someone out there to be able to retrieve my emails, etc. They might give some clues that I ate something funny, or whatever. Maybe that's a morbid thought, but it does come to mind to me sometimes).

This is why you write the passwords down. I have an entire sheet with mine I keep in my desk drawer, but I also have passwords saved on my PC since I'm the only one that uses it, unlike if I had a laptop and carried it everywhere.

[garnet]

Rane and I have had each others facebooks and WoW passwords, and now that we're CD, we've got our computers in the same room, email right there, passwords saved, so really, anything is accessible I think. I'd love to read some of what he has written, and while I *COULD* I haven't, and never will.

[threecheers9980]

He doesn't have the passwords to any of my accounts and I don't have the passwords to any of his. He did give me the password to check his checking account online once, but I've since forgotten it.

[xMesmerize124]

I currently don't have access to any of my boyfriend's online accounts because i don't care to have his passwords and junk (whats there to look for?). Nor does he have any access to my online accounts (again whats there to look for?). I guess we trust each other and don't really want to stalk each other's accounts or anything.

[machstx]

We are really respectful of eachothers privacy on FB and emails. We have such trust that ive never even thought to ask for his passwords except for one time i wanted to change his profile pic of one of us as a surprise lol. but after i did that i forgot it lol. and he gave it to me no questions asked...im on his phone plane so i have to know the last four of his social to pay the bill n ask questions about insurance and billing etc. he also knows my password for an email account because he accesses it to get my flight info when i cant get to a computer but thats it. when i first read this post i thought to myself "oh we dont have any of eachothers passys" but i guess we do haha. but that happens sometimes as your relationship becomes more involved and you share finances.

[paulawriteslove]

I don't have access to my boyfriends account, and he doesn't have access to mine. It's never come up in a conversation because we trust ourself a lot! In the end, we both know each other isn't hiding anything. But ya, I could understand why some couples share accounts.

[milaya]

Don't see a reason to give my SO access to such things.
It's not that I don't trust him... it's more I can't see why he needs it.
Why should he read my e-mails and such...

For me it's not a trust issue... just don't see the reason