Hey guys, First and foremost, I really appreciate everyone that posts here and helps one another out. You guys are the best
Well, long story short.
I used to date a girl who lives about a 3 hour flight away. We were in a LDR for about 3 months. I went to go see her and things went perfect. We fell hard. She even introduced me to her family, which is a huge deal considering we come from a culture where dating is kind of looked down upon. So fast forward almost exactly a month later. One day we're FaceTiming and things are going amazing. She tells me she's falling for me and we talk for hours. The very next day she suddenly is distant, at the end of the day she basically said she's doubtful that this relationship will work out because of the distance and she needs me there physically. Things quickly begin to fade between us and within days we're not contacting each other at all anymore.
After about 6 months, she meets a guy local to her and they get engaged fairly quickly. They were engaged for about a year and things didn't work out.
After she left him, she begin contacting me again and saying that she always had feelings for me and regret letting the distance get in the way of things. I was super doubtful of getting back with her as I didn't want to be a rebound, and I didn't want to be suddenly abandoned again.
We talk for a few months in a platonic manner. But sure enough our talks/texting became a daily thing and the feelings came back. She promised me she wouldn't let the distance get in the way again. She told me how her family always wanted me to be the one she ended up with.
We talk for about 3 months and decide to spend a weekend together at a city on the east coast. That was one of the most amazing weekends of my life being with her, and our chemistry together was something I've never had with another girl... Everything was perfect. As we were saying our goodbyes, she told me that she loves me and I told her the same as well. I genuinely can say I loved this girl more than any other to this point in my life.
Fast forward to almost exactly a month later. Things up until this point were amazing, we expressed our feelings to each other daily and she adamantly spoke of getting engaged to me. We made plans for her to come meet my family in the next few weeks to begin planning it.
One day, we talk for the entire day and things are great. That night she goes out with a female friend and doesn't text/call or reply to my text/calls. The next morning I finally get a hold of her and ask her where she's been?? She says that she was acting distant towards me on purpose. When I ask why, she says that she just feels unsure of our relationship because of the distance. That she feels we can't build our relationship without being around each other and it breaks her heart that I can't be there when she goes out. She's scared that we may have moved too fast because she had just gotten out of a serious relationship previously. Deja vu.
She says she wants to be with me and she still loves me. Later that day we talk again and everything seems to be back to normal. She says she's still wants to get engaged and speaks of having children with me one day. She tells me that she's just been stressed with school starting and that she IS a girl after all and has her mood swings. She tells me that she appreciates how I fought for her and that she loves me more for that.
So the college semester has begun for her this week and she had been saying prior to it that she would be swamped with work and school once it begins. So school starts and she begins acting distant again. I tell her that I understand she's busy but she should at least make an effort to talk to me or text me a few times whens she gets a chance. She agrees and things seem OK.
She has been acting very cold some days and has been giving me more attention other days. When we say goodbye/goodnight she always tells me she loves me.
Last friday night, I decided to completely ignore her and gauge her concern for me. She texts me and calls me throughout the day and is sincerely mad about me not answering and she tells me she's worried. She also tried to contact my friends to see where I was. We both use "Find My Friends" on our phones to see where we are.
We talk the next day and I confront her of her sudden change. She tells me that she's just been very stressed out about school and it's overwhelming her.
She isn't as sweet as she was when we used to talk. She doesn't always tell me that she misses me and we don't talk about the future as much anymore. It seriously breaks my heart and I watch my phone throughout the day and jump to it when I see her name pop up. She's also been seeming to be very irritable lately, not just with me but with her family as well.
This has been going on for a week now. She is usually very very upfront and truthful with me. When I asked her if there is somebody else in the picture, she said there isn't and that she would tell me if there was. I do believe her.
Guys, I don't know what to think... my heart feels heavy every day because I don't know if i'm holding onto something that's quickly slipping away. I love this girl with all my heart.. but I still want it to work between us.
Please help :'(
Well, long story short.
I used to date a girl who lives about a 3 hour flight away. We were in a LDR for about 3 months. I went to go see her and things went perfect. We fell hard. She even introduced me to her family, which is a huge deal considering we come from a culture where dating is kind of looked down upon. So fast forward almost exactly a month later. One day we're FaceTiming and things are going amazing. She tells me she's falling for me and we talk for hours. The very next day she suddenly is distant, at the end of the day she basically said she's doubtful that this relationship will work out because of the distance and she needs me there physically. Things quickly begin to fade between us and within days we're not contacting each other at all anymore.
After about 6 months, she meets a guy local to her and they get engaged fairly quickly. They were engaged for about a year and things didn't work out.
After she left him, she begin contacting me again and saying that she always had feelings for me and regret letting the distance get in the way of things. I was super doubtful of getting back with her as I didn't want to be a rebound, and I didn't want to be suddenly abandoned again.
We talk for a few months in a platonic manner. But sure enough our talks/texting became a daily thing and the feelings came back. She promised me she wouldn't let the distance get in the way again. She told me how her family always wanted me to be the one she ended up with.
We talk for about 3 months and decide to spend a weekend together at a city on the east coast. That was one of the most amazing weekends of my life being with her, and our chemistry together was something I've never had with another girl... Everything was perfect. As we were saying our goodbyes, she told me that she loves me and I told her the same as well. I genuinely can say I loved this girl more than any other to this point in my life.
Fast forward to almost exactly a month later. Things up until this point were amazing, we expressed our feelings to each other daily and she adamantly spoke of getting engaged to me. We made plans for her to come meet my family in the next few weeks to begin planning it.
One day, we talk for the entire day and things are great. That night she goes out with a female friend and doesn't text/call or reply to my text/calls. The next morning I finally get a hold of her and ask her where she's been?? She says that she was acting distant towards me on purpose. When I ask why, she says that she just feels unsure of our relationship because of the distance. That she feels we can't build our relationship without being around each other and it breaks her heart that I can't be there when she goes out. She's scared that we may have moved too fast because she had just gotten out of a serious relationship previously. Deja vu.
She says she wants to be with me and she still loves me. Later that day we talk again and everything seems to be back to normal. She says she's still wants to get engaged and speaks of having children with me one day. She tells me that she's just been stressed with school starting and that she IS a girl after all and has her mood swings. She tells me that she appreciates how I fought for her and that she loves me more for that.
So the college semester has begun for her this week and she had been saying prior to it that she would be swamped with work and school once it begins. So school starts and she begins acting distant again. I tell her that I understand she's busy but she should at least make an effort to talk to me or text me a few times whens she gets a chance. She agrees and things seem OK.
She has been acting very cold some days and has been giving me more attention other days. When we say goodbye/goodnight she always tells me she loves me.
Last friday night, I decided to completely ignore her and gauge her concern for me. She texts me and calls me throughout the day and is sincerely mad about me not answering and she tells me she's worried. She also tried to contact my friends to see where I was. We both use "Find My Friends" on our phones to see where we are.
We talk the next day and I confront her of her sudden change. She tells me that she's just been very stressed out about school and it's overwhelming her.
She isn't as sweet as she was when we used to talk. She doesn't always tell me that she misses me and we don't talk about the future as much anymore. It seriously breaks my heart and I watch my phone throughout the day and jump to it when I see her name pop up. She's also been seeming to be very irritable lately, not just with me but with her family as well.
This has been going on for a week now. She is usually very very upfront and truthful with me. When I asked her if there is somebody else in the picture, she said there isn't and that she would tell me if there was. I do believe her.
Guys, I don't know what to think... my heart feels heavy every day because I don't know if i'm holding onto something that's quickly slipping away. I love this girl with all my heart.. but I still want it to work between us.
Please help :'(
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