Searching for advice for the phone call.

[sasad]

He has already been banned...

[Fldancer90]

OP: I think the best way to get this conversation going on the right note would be to ask something along the lines of "How do you want me to help you through this?" That way you give your SO the opportunity to let you know his side of the story, and bring up how he feels you can support him best in your situation.

From there on it may be easier to make a plan on how you two will keep connected. It doesn't have to be as often as every hour, but it has to be at least fairly regular enough for both of you to count on having this time together.

Thanks for this advice. The conversation naturally went that direction and he did open up about some of the things going on. I just wish I knew HOW to help him when he isolates him during stressful times.

[Fldancer90]

OP, moving to a new city and adapting to a new routine are incredibly time consuming. From your post, it sounds like he still wants to talk to you and enjoys it. Be supportive and ask how your can make his life easier. Time spent communicating may be slow for now, but it's temporary. Do let him know how you feel about his lack of communication, but try not to let your feelings take precedence over his needs. At this point, it sounds like he could really use your unconditional support.

And it definitely sounds like you mean a great deal to him. He knows you prefer more communication and is making an effort to communicate more. To me, that says a lot in how much he wants your happiness as well.

Your insight is much appreciated. We did have a conversation and so much of what you mentioned was a part of it. He is extremely busy and hasn't had a day off in two weeks due to tournaments and mentioned that he can tell he has been isolating himself a little bit. He knows he can be a workaholic and its easy to do when he's in a LDR. He said he wants to change it and work on that issue but he said he needs my help. I'm not sure how to help though...