A while back I came across the idea of "Love Languages", which are different ways that people show and feel love. There is a book about it, but a lot of the information can be found online.
The different "languages" are: words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, physical touch, and quality time.
All are important in a relationship, but sometimes some people favor one over the others.
There is a quiz (here), but just by reading about them I figured I was tied between gifts and words of affirmation. I treasure even the smallest things such as port card or the first bottle of wine and roses (which I refuse to throw away) my SO gave me. I suppose I view it as a physical symbol of love or care, but I just love gifts and have a very hard time throwing cards away, or even something like a ticket to a movie. My mother saw my poor little dead rose and thought it was silly! My SO thinks its silly too, whatever!
As for words of affirmation, I thrive off of I love you's and being told that I'm appreciated. This is what me and my SO seem to have in common. We both like being told I love you or other sweet words, and if one of us doesn't say it back the other is like, "hey!". I think he is also big on quality time. Being in an LDR, that means a lot of texting and a lot of caming and it's a good thing. It used to not be the case as we both started off very shy, but we are long over that point and he especially tries to make it a point to cam or at least call everyday. Even if he has to do it while driving.
Just curious! Has anyone heard of Love Languages before? What are your thoughts about it? What are you and your SO's "languages"?
The different "languages" are: words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, physical touch, and quality time.
All are important in a relationship, but sometimes some people favor one over the others.
There is a quiz (here), but just by reading about them I figured I was tied between gifts and words of affirmation. I treasure even the smallest things such as port card or the first bottle of wine and roses (which I refuse to throw away) my SO gave me. I suppose I view it as a physical symbol of love or care, but I just love gifts and have a very hard time throwing cards away, or even something like a ticket to a movie. My mother saw my poor little dead rose and thought it was silly! My SO thinks its silly too, whatever!
As for words of affirmation, I thrive off of I love you's and being told that I'm appreciated. This is what me and my SO seem to have in common. We both like being told I love you or other sweet words, and if one of us doesn't say it back the other is like, "hey!". I think he is also big on quality time. Being in an LDR, that means a lot of texting and a lot of caming and it's a good thing. It used to not be the case as we both started off very shy, but we are long over that point and he especially tries to make it a point to cam or at least call everyday. Even if he has to do it while driving.
Just curious! Has anyone heard of Love Languages before? What are your thoughts about it? What are you and your SO's "languages"?
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