This is kind of an update from my story, which I shared a few weeks ago...
My boyfriend (of over 2.5 years) and I broke up a month and a half ago. We have been doing long distance for a year (he's a diplomat serving a 2.5 year post). He had come for a visit and to celebrate my birthday in late July. However, he didn't get to spend a whole lot of time with me because he had to split his time with family and friends (which is not something he openly said he had to do--he was just running around, busy and all).
We fought (I initiated)--about commitment issues and after I expressed dissatisfaction about him not incorporating me more into his life (especially here when he's in town). He begged me to be patient, but I persisted since this has been brought up before. After the fight, we just kept silent and gave each other space for two weeks.
At the two week mark, I reached out and apologized. But he was angry. He said he didn't want to continue and that he already found someone else, someone there. The way he said it, it could be assumed that they got together during the two week period, but maybe it's just me who wants to give him the benefit of the doubt. I want to think he made her up in anger. I am/was in disbelief because he had just asked me to move with him to his (temporary--1.5 more years) post in Africa and he seemed head over heels with me just weeks prior.
I heard through the grapevine that he had been going through sensitive family issues that he didn't want to bring up. So, that's why I question the other woman. Perhaps he tried to cover that up.
That was like five weeks ago. This is the longest we've gone without communication.
I reached out to him two days ago, thinking he'd be in town since his work is hosting a huge conference. It's likely he's not since I got an out-of-office reply from him saying he'd be out of the office for only two days. Anyway, in that email, I was not sad; I wasn't needy; I didn't bring up our relationship issues; I didn't say I miss him, etc. I simply gave him an update on me (ie: my new job, my mini trip home, and my 5K-running progress) and tried to covertly remind him of why he loved me. He hasn't responded yet.
What if he doesn't? What if he's totally moved on?
The pain has been immense and lingering. I really miss his presence in my life--he has been an amazing supporter and fan. This is one of the hardest things I've been through. I'm just constantly wondering why I wasn't enough for him and why he gave up. I'm reeling here, confused over happened. Could he just cut himself off? Has the past two years been a waste and meaningless? What is he thinking now?
My boyfriend (of over 2.5 years) and I broke up a month and a half ago. We have been doing long distance for a year (he's a diplomat serving a 2.5 year post). He had come for a visit and to celebrate my birthday in late July. However, he didn't get to spend a whole lot of time with me because he had to split his time with family and friends (which is not something he openly said he had to do--he was just running around, busy and all).
We fought (I initiated)--about commitment issues and after I expressed dissatisfaction about him not incorporating me more into his life (especially here when he's in town). He begged me to be patient, but I persisted since this has been brought up before. After the fight, we just kept silent and gave each other space for two weeks.
At the two week mark, I reached out and apologized. But he was angry. He said he didn't want to continue and that he already found someone else, someone there. The way he said it, it could be assumed that they got together during the two week period, but maybe it's just me who wants to give him the benefit of the doubt. I want to think he made her up in anger. I am/was in disbelief because he had just asked me to move with him to his (temporary--1.5 more years) post in Africa and he seemed head over heels with me just weeks prior.
I heard through the grapevine that he had been going through sensitive family issues that he didn't want to bring up. So, that's why I question the other woman. Perhaps he tried to cover that up.
That was like five weeks ago. This is the longest we've gone without communication.
I reached out to him two days ago, thinking he'd be in town since his work is hosting a huge conference. It's likely he's not since I got an out-of-office reply from him saying he'd be out of the office for only two days. Anyway, in that email, I was not sad; I wasn't needy; I didn't bring up our relationship issues; I didn't say I miss him, etc. I simply gave him an update on me (ie: my new job, my mini trip home, and my 5K-running progress) and tried to covertly remind him of why he loved me. He hasn't responded yet.
What if he doesn't? What if he's totally moved on?
The pain has been immense and lingering. I really miss his presence in my life--he has been an amazing supporter and fan. This is one of the hardest things I've been through. I'm just constantly wondering why I wasn't enough for him and why he gave up. I'm reeling here, confused over happened. Could he just cut himself off? Has the past two years been a waste and meaningless? What is he thinking now?
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