A break?

[sunnymess54]

My SO and I have been fighting a lot lately my reasoning is because the one main thing I ask from him he always has excuses why he doesn't do it and thats for him to call me once in a while.

We talk daily all the time via texts but to me it's soo impersonal because you can't guage a persons tone or hear their voice etc and I just really miss that. A lot of times I am fine, I'm not mad or fighting but he'll say "why are we fighting" and im always puzzled thinking "What?" we are just talking.

Back from Dec-March I was living in an area that I didn't get really any service so I would miss a lot of his calls and he'd get upset thinking I didnt want to talk to him. Ive tried explaining the situation but he wouldnt get it. Anyways sence moving to a new area he still very rarely ever calls me.

I feel like if this one thing was happening we wouldn't nearly have as much issues. I just miss that and I dont know how to make him understand without hurting his feelings and him feeling like a failure...

Anyways the other day I told him I needed a break for a couple days to clear my head and just breath! Well the two days go by, he read that message but didn't respond until that 2nd day saying he agreed with me that we needed a breather for a few days. I than proceeded to tell him that I was fine but he said he waa so busy working he didnt have a chance to think about anything so he wanted a few more days.

Idky but I instantly felt very hurt by that. So I asked him if this was permanent or temporary and he said just temporary just a few days thats all. That he wants this to work and that he loves me, hes just tired of the fighting.

So to me its like ok so why cant yoy do this one thing that would do away with all the issues.

[Harlequin]

You said you needed a break for a few days to clear your head, he agreed, and then he needed a few more days because he was busy with work. He's not doing anything wrong by doing that. If you're going to allow yourself a few days to clear your head, you need to be willing to do the same for him.
Sounds like you two aren't on the same page for whatever reason. So once his schedule clears up and you have more time to talk, I would sit down with him and talk about things. Be smart about your words, sure, but don't be afraid to bring things up that are bothering you. Then let him talk about what's bothering him. You guys need to get everything out there and resolved.

[sunnymess54]

Thank you! He took two days and we talked and we are good. We have to find ways to better communicate with eachother. Going to take things day by day but after talking we both feel a lot better.