Time Apart

[SugarBooger]

Has anyone taken time apart from their LDR? My bf and I have hit a bump in the road. He's lost faith and distanced himself. He thinks we will never close the distance. I need more visits before I am willing to move. I'm so sad and he says he doesn't know what to do. I was going to suggest taking a break. Him and I are so perfect for each other we just have this 800 miles between us. I'm so upset and confused. I don't even know what I want anymore. Has anyone taken a break in their LDR or gone through this? We love each other so much.

[Elizabeth123]

First ...take time and think about what you want in life. What are your career plans, do you want a family at some point, how do you see yourself living in another place, etc.
Never move just for another "person". A relationship is built by two people and if he's not putting any effort into staying together you already have an issue that needs to be solved. Proceed slowly and communicate your needs to him.

[Chris516]

Visit him more. But he should also visit you more. So the cost can be split 50/50.

[sasad]

If I remember....he has kids that are teens I think? And job market isn't so good where you are for him?
50/50 ..for visits would Work in the perfect world, but rarely happens that way. ..so we all learn to compromise.
Taking a break rarely works out for the best. Is he pressuring you to move as a condition for your relationship?
Plan a skype date and talk it out. He has to be honest and voice his concerns and fears. As do you. I know you expressed concerns on being a step mm as well. Take your time. You both need to be in the right place. Xo

[R&R]

Rarely taking a true "break" in the relationship works. If you are each just taking a couple of days to clear your heads, that's one thing. Taking a true break where you are no longer a couple - well there are quite a few on here who have tried that and they ended up breaking up for good.

Elizabeth123 gave some excellent advice. You may love someone, but that doesn't mean it's the best move for you. Make sure you are doing this because you know it's what you would want for you, even if he didn't live in that area. More visits is a good thing if you are really planning on living in that area.