Open relationship

[Chris516]

The GF is having an emotional on line affair- not a physical one from what he post. The GF has never met up with the other guy ( or so she says)

Yes, For now it is just online affair. That doesn't make it any better, and could potentially get sexual if they aren't careful.

The moment you decide to have sex, you're opening yourself up to catching an STD. You could have one partner, or one thousand partners, and still be safe. You could participate in orgies every night and be safe. You could lose your virginity to someone and get stuck with an incurable STD. It's about being smart and using protection.

To be on topic:
No, I've never been in an open relationship. That's not something I'd be comfortable with. OP, I think you're considering an open relationship for the wrong reasons. Please put yourself first, and don't feel like you're obligated to play along with this just because she wants to do it. If you're going to do this, make sure it's for the right reasons and make sure it's some thing you can emotionally handle.

[Chris516]

OP This may sound weird. But a 'controlled' open relationship is something like a polygamous marriage, like that on 'Sister Wives'. I don't like it, but it is.

[differentcountries]

Open relationships can mean many things, there could be plural partners or there could be a monogaous relationship with sex outside the relationship.

I usually dont say we are in an open relationship, I prefer the term polyamory. By boyfriend calls it "our special relationship". They are my equal partners. I have two mother in laws, five brother in laws and a very big family. We have lived like this for more than 3 years. I dont "need" anything besides my husband, but I fell in love with another man and I still love both of them, and they feel loved by me, I think. I certainly did not just accidentally tell my husband that I am seeing someone else. We talked about the possability for years forhand, and we even talked on the phone as I was falling for my SO, and I aske for permission to sleep with him. My boyfriend also knows that this is exactly how it happened, and he says that he feels respected too, knowing that we had so much honesty involved in the startup. He says that without me being very forward with how I wanted everything done, he never would have even considered it. We talk a lot about how we want things to be, if he should move here and what not.

It sounds like you are in a more casual open relationship, which now are mostly on her terms. It is not ok that one person just says that you are now open. I will reccomend having a look at the "Opening up" book https://openingup.net/book-excerpt/