fight - meeting soon

[Littlewhiteflower]

I will try to make it short. I fought with my partner yesterday and I don't really know where to stand now.
He told me that our relationship would never work, because I questioned him about ''exclusivity''. He felt attacked and insulted because I doubted of him and he seemed to have lost hope in us.
When I asked him later on, when he was a bit more calm, if he wanted me to break up with him, he said ''no'' and he texted me while I was asleep to tell me he never wanted to leave me.
I haven't answered yet and I'm still hurt by what happened. We are meeting in a couple of days and this fight just spoils quite how I feel about that now.
I don't really feel like talking to him at the moment as what he said really hurt me. He has been very harsh with me, assuming things that was completely false, but I don't feel good about not doing anything as we are meeting in less than 20 days.
Should I message him or not? It's not the first time we fight. It's just bigger this time and we almost broke up. So, I just dont know where to stand and I don't know what to think anymore. I guess I was just hoping to have a bit of support...

[sasad]

I will try to make it short. I fought with my partner yesterday and I don't really know where to stand now.
He told me that our relationship would never work, because I questioned him about ''exclusivity''. He felt attacked and insulted because I doubted of him and he seemed to have lost hope in us.
When I asked him later on, when he was a bit more calm, if he wanted me to break up with him, he said ''no'' and he texted me while I was asleep to tell me he never wanted to leave me.
I haven't answered yet and I'm still hurt by what happened. We are meeting in a couple of days and this fight just spoils quite how I feel about that now.
I don't really feel like talking to him at the moment as what he said really hurt me. He has been very harsh with me, assuming things that was completely false, but I don't feel good about not doing anything as we are meeting in less than 20 days.
Should I message him or not? It's not the first time we fight. It's just bigger this time and we almost broke up. So, I just dont know where to stand and I don't know what to think anymore. I guess I was just hoping to have a bit of support...

I don't know what the fight was about, but it takes to to argue and two to have a relationship.

It sounds like he was hurt as well as he said he lost all hope. I don't know what to do to offer support except to tell you both to work it out and talk it out. If this is how you are going to deal with conflict when you are cd, it is not going to work.

So, you need to decide if this is worth working for or if you can't deal with it and break up. You needto decide, we can't do that for you.

[Littlewhiteflower]

I know..I just don't like fight. Now it seems like a whole mess and we are meeting very soon. He is still distant with me and doesn't want to call me. So, I don't know what to do. I texted him and asked him to discuss but he said he was busy...
I'm just very stressed and I never really know how to deal with fights. It's usually difficult with him as he becomes super cold after fighting. So...i just wrote that to breath a little.
Thanks for your reply

[Chris516]

I will try to make it short. I fought with my partner yesterday and I don't really know where to stand now.
He told me that our relationship would never work, because I questioned him about ''exclusivity''. He felt attacked and insulted because I doubted of him and he seemed to have lost hope in us.
When I asked him later on, when he was a bit more calm, if he wanted me to break up with him, he said ''no'' and he texted me while I was asleep to tell me he never wanted to leave me.
I haven't answered yet and I'm still hurt by what happened. We are meeting in a couple of days and this fight just spoils quite how I feel about that now.
I don't really feel like talking to him at the moment as what he said really hurt me. He has been very harsh with me, assuming things that was completely false, but I don't feel good about not doing anything as we are meeting in less than 20 days.
Should I message him or not? It's not the first time we fight. It's just bigger this time and we almost broke up. So, I just don't know where to stand and I don't know what to think anymore. I guess I was just hoping to have a bit of support...

It 'Takes Two To Tango'(basically what sasad already said). But it doesn't have to take two, to destroy a relationship.

Can you provide some specificity as to the details of what you n' your SO fought about? Not just what you said above.

[Rezie]

With this info I would say to tell him how he made you feel and how you didn't appreciate it. And if you said somethig you are sorry about then apologise. See how it goes from there.

[Littlewhiteflower]

Thank you all for your reply..

He finally called me and we spent the night talking and trying to solve the problems. I think it's going a bit better.

[Chris516]

Thank you all for your reply..

He finally called me and we spent the night talking and trying to solve the problems. I think it's going a bit better.

There is only one thing to say about that...SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS!!!!!!!