Hi everyone this is my first post, wanting some advice from people in a similar situation?
My bf and I have been together for 4.5 years, doing long distance for 3.5 years. We met and school then were apart when we went to Uni 245 miles apart (may not seen much but due to our course we only saw each other every 8-10 weeks for a weekend).
The dream was always to move in once uni was over BUT he got a job where he was and it was a great opportunity and so moving in was pushed back by 2 months. They then extended his contract so it was pushed back another 5 months. They have now offered him a job in New Zealand for 6-9 months. It's such an amazing opportunity but does mean that things will only get harder for us and that we won't move in together for another 9 months or so.
I just constantly feel left behind, almost just like an idiot sitting and constantly waiting and nothing ever happens? I also suffer with anxiety a lot which haha does not help the situation!
Loads of my friends have said you're so young why are you tying yourself to all these commitments, but he's been my best friend for 9 years and we've been together for 4.5 years and I really do love him. I know it's really selfish, but it's like can I actually cope with him being on the other side of the world with a 13 hour time difference, knowing I can't really afford to travel that far more than once and that's if I can get the time off...?
I want to be with him so much but just not in this current situation cause I'm really struggling to emotionally and mentally cope with it....
Sorry that is a massive post but any advice would be amazing - thank you x
My bf and I have been together for 4.5 years, doing long distance for 3.5 years. We met and school then were apart when we went to Uni 245 miles apart (may not seen much but due to our course we only saw each other every 8-10 weeks for a weekend).
The dream was always to move in once uni was over BUT he got a job where he was and it was a great opportunity and so moving in was pushed back by 2 months. They then extended his contract so it was pushed back another 5 months. They have now offered him a job in New Zealand for 6-9 months. It's such an amazing opportunity but does mean that things will only get harder for us and that we won't move in together for another 9 months or so.
I just constantly feel left behind, almost just like an idiot sitting and constantly waiting and nothing ever happens? I also suffer with anxiety a lot which haha does not help the situation!
Loads of my friends have said you're so young why are you tying yourself to all these commitments, but he's been my best friend for 9 years and we've been together for 4.5 years and I really do love him. I know it's really selfish, but it's like can I actually cope with him being on the other side of the world with a 13 hour time difference, knowing I can't really afford to travel that far more than once and that's if I can get the time off...?
I want to be with him so much but just not in this current situation cause I'm really struggling to emotionally and mentally cope with it....
Sorry that is a massive post but any advice would be amazing - thank you x
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