My Mum was married twice, the second guy, my biological father, beat the ever-loving hell out of her after they were married (never any sign of violence beforehand though) and she ran away from him. It was his second marriage too. Technically he died before they got divorced, so I guess that's good 
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Anywhoo, she had partners after him and that taught me that some people are just not good at relationships. Unlucky if you want to call it that. Which taught me to look at why I'm in a relationship. Am I happy or just there because I feel needed? etc
When I was considering marriage to the guy I was (very unhappy) with before Obi, she asked me a lot of questions about WHY I wanted to marry, and what the right and wrong reasons might be. It was helpful
So really ask yourself what you see in them, why you're getting married, etc.
But I've seen plenty of successful and unsuccessful marriages. The thing is Obi and I are ourselves, no one else. What works or fails for others will be a different experience for us. With that said, devorce isn't really a big shameful thing to me. It's just something that can happen. Lots of things can happen.
?Anywhoo, she had partners after him and that taught me that some people are just not good at relationships. Unlucky if you want to call it that. Which taught me to look at why I'm in a relationship. Am I happy or just there because I feel needed? etc
When I was considering marriage to the guy I was (very unhappy) with before Obi, she asked me a lot of questions about WHY I wanted to marry, and what the right and wrong reasons might be. It was helpful
So really ask yourself what you see in them, why you're getting married, etc.But I've seen plenty of successful and unsuccessful marriages. The thing is Obi and I are ourselves, no one else. What works or fails for others will be a different experience for us. With that said, devorce isn't really a big shameful thing to me. It's just something that can happen. Lots of things can happen.
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