Hello! I would like to get some advice from others who are or have been in my shoes. I just left my boyfriend 2 days ago from a 3-week long visit. I thought it wouldn't be so hard for me since I heard usually it's easier on the one leaving rather than the one that is left. However, I'm finding it to be just as difficult for me as when he leaves. I know it's only been a couple of days, but I'm really starting to think we should go ahead and try our hardest to close the distance sooner than we planned. Our initial plan was, for us to wait until I graduate college (I'm going into my second semester of Junior year - about a year and 1/2 to go) and then he moves here on a K-1 Visa where we will get married in 90 days so he could live here. We are then going to see about him getting enrolled in a technical college, so he could expand his job opportunities.
We have been together as a couple for almost 2 years now, but it seems like every time we leave one another it gets harder and harder. It just feels so different when we talk on the phone, as compared to in real life (obviously). We get into arguments more when we are long-distance, and I feel like we both just act different than when we are together. Don't get me wrong, we love eachother very much, I just need some advice on what exactly we should start working towards. My boyfriend, however, thinks we just need to wait as originally planned. I understand there's various types of visas, such as a work visa or student visa - however, my boyfriend does not currently attend school and I know for work visas you have to be SUPER specialized to be considered. I really do not think it would be wise to get married anytime soon, as I think we would both feel it was forced. Another problem, right now he works at a restaurant and loves his job, he has his own life and I feel it would be unfair to suddenly want him to just go ahead and move here asap, but then again, we're in love right?
I want to know who else has been in my shoes and what you found the best option was to be. Should we bother with the work visa? I just need some sort of insight or guidance at this point. Anything is appreciated. Thanks!
We have been together as a couple for almost 2 years now, but it seems like every time we leave one another it gets harder and harder. It just feels so different when we talk on the phone, as compared to in real life (obviously). We get into arguments more when we are long-distance, and I feel like we both just act different than when we are together. Don't get me wrong, we love eachother very much, I just need some advice on what exactly we should start working towards. My boyfriend, however, thinks we just need to wait as originally planned. I understand there's various types of visas, such as a work visa or student visa - however, my boyfriend does not currently attend school and I know for work visas you have to be SUPER specialized to be considered. I really do not think it would be wise to get married anytime soon, as I think we would both feel it was forced. Another problem, right now he works at a restaurant and loves his job, he has his own life and I feel it would be unfair to suddenly want him to just go ahead and move here asap, but then again, we're in love right?
I want to know who else has been in my shoes and what you found the best option was to be. Should we bother with the work visa? I just need some sort of insight or guidance at this point. Anything is appreciated. Thanks!
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