Hello All!
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for a few lonths and sadly we recently hit a very major roadblock. My boyfriend has been battling depression for a while....and it has recently gotten worse with our physical separation from one another. A few weeks ago, he hit a major depressive low. He would not respond to my texts and would it show any kind of emotional connection with me. He couldn't even respond when I told him I loved him...I felt so confused that one night I called him. I asked if he needed more space and what, exactly, was making him so depressed. He told me he didn't understand his feelings, but he feared that he was falling out of love with me. Naturally, this hurt me very much....I took some time to myself and called him again a few hours later. During our second phone call he was very apologetic. He told me that he still loved me, but that he was uncertain whether or not being in a relationship (especially a long distance one) was right for him given his depression. I understand his worries, but I love him very much. I don't want to lose him and I can truly see a future with him. I'm willing to fight through his depression and the distance separating us...but since this fight, I feel like I can't trust him as much as I used to. I find myself terrified every time he seems depressed and sometimes I even wonder whether or not his love for me is still there. I want to keep supporting him and I want to be his partner...but I also fear he doesn't have the strength to stick around if things get rough. Any advice for me would be greatly appreciated....especially in regards to how I can stay by his side given his fears and uncertainties.
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for a few lonths and sadly we recently hit a very major roadblock. My boyfriend has been battling depression for a while....and it has recently gotten worse with our physical separation from one another. A few weeks ago, he hit a major depressive low. He would not respond to my texts and would it show any kind of emotional connection with me. He couldn't even respond when I told him I loved him...I felt so confused that one night I called him. I asked if he needed more space and what, exactly, was making him so depressed. He told me he didn't understand his feelings, but he feared that he was falling out of love with me. Naturally, this hurt me very much....I took some time to myself and called him again a few hours later. During our second phone call he was very apologetic. He told me that he still loved me, but that he was uncertain whether or not being in a relationship (especially a long distance one) was right for him given his depression. I understand his worries, but I love him very much. I don't want to lose him and I can truly see a future with him. I'm willing to fight through his depression and the distance separating us...but since this fight, I feel like I can't trust him as much as I used to. I find myself terrified every time he seems depressed and sometimes I even wonder whether or not his love for me is still there. I want to keep supporting him and I want to be his partner...but I also fear he doesn't have the strength to stick around if things get rough. Any advice for me would be greatly appreciated....especially in regards to how I can stay by his side given his fears and uncertainties.
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