Hi there, I was just looking for some advice and I apologize if I ramble. I made friends with a guy in one of my classes and he asked if I would like to go see the new Thor movie together. He also has an SO, so I don't think there are any other motives behind it. I've also talked to my SO and he says that he's okay with it, because sometimes in the future he may have lunch or something with a female friend from college. But he lives in Japan, so he does seem to think that movies are more intimate than a lunch. So it's kind of like he said that he's okay with it, as long as I'm okay with him going to lunch in the future with a friend from college, which i am, but I feel there are reasons why I should and shouldn't go to the movies with my classmate.
Should Go
1. I don't make friends easily and having those types of relationships are good for you
2. I pretty much only work and go to school right now, so it might be nice to have a fun time
3. The friend is a guy that's not my type, so there's not even the remote possibility for attraction
Shouldn't Go
1. Even if we're just friends, it's two people going to see a movie alone. My SO and I are practically engaged and I don't even want to give the wrong image to bystanders
2. It does seem to make my SO uncomfortable and I really want to take his feelings into consideration. He's not the jealous type, it's about how it looks.
3. Would I be okay with it if it were the other way around? If my SO went to the movies with a female friend, I'd probably be on the lower end of liking it. I'm not in a relationship where we give each other permission to do things, but the way the other person feels is really important to us.
What should I do? Thanks in advance!
Should Go
1. I don't make friends easily and having those types of relationships are good for you
2. I pretty much only work and go to school right now, so it might be nice to have a fun time
3. The friend is a guy that's not my type, so there's not even the remote possibility for attraction
Shouldn't Go
1. Even if we're just friends, it's two people going to see a movie alone. My SO and I are practically engaged and I don't even want to give the wrong image to bystanders
2. It does seem to make my SO uncomfortable and I really want to take his feelings into consideration. He's not the jealous type, it's about how it looks.
3. Would I be okay with it if it were the other way around? If my SO went to the movies with a female friend, I'd probably be on the lower end of liking it. I'm not in a relationship where we give each other permission to do things, but the way the other person feels is really important to us.
What should I do? Thanks in advance!
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