Hi, ‘Forumers!’ 👋🏼
I’ll be meeting my long-distance love interest for the first time soon. I’m excited, but nervous. The cause of the latter is really down to one question: will they like me in person?
Just as a bit of background info., I’m a woman and my POI is a man. I’m English, he’s American. We’ve been talking now for just over a year, having ‘met’ through social media, initially. DMs became more frequent; these eventually turned into texts, calls ;that go on for hours), photos, videos etc., and eventually, Christmas, Birthday (and so forth) gifts for each other.
We have amazing ‘chemistry’ (whatever the apt word is for this when you’ve not met physically) and it’s fair to say, we’ve built/are building a beautiful friendship, and care for each other very much.
Of course, the eager anticipation to meet is growing. I’ll be visiting him, and whether it seems unrealistic or not, I’m expecting to feel the same way for him in person as I do across thousands of miles of distance. Generally, he communicates the same and is as enthusiastic as I am about it all, but he has mentioned in the past the possibility of it not being the same in-person – in the lusty, romantic sense.
I suppose you can never say 100% in these sorts of situations, but I’m seeing it as simply ‘closing the gap’ and enjoying the 3D versions of each other! It’s never occurred to me that I might not like the ‘real’ him.
I fully admit: I’m afraid he’ll meet me and reject me. Does anyone have any stories of their own they’d be willing to share, aligned with the above? Can people relate, and are these thoughts/anxieties normal?
I’d be grateful for any tips you have!
I’ll be meeting my long-distance love interest for the first time soon. I’m excited, but nervous. The cause of the latter is really down to one question: will they like me in person?
Just as a bit of background info., I’m a woman and my POI is a man. I’m English, he’s American. We’ve been talking now for just over a year, having ‘met’ through social media, initially. DMs became more frequent; these eventually turned into texts, calls ;that go on for hours), photos, videos etc., and eventually, Christmas, Birthday (and so forth) gifts for each other.
We have amazing ‘chemistry’ (whatever the apt word is for this when you’ve not met physically) and it’s fair to say, we’ve built/are building a beautiful friendship, and care for each other very much.
Of course, the eager anticipation to meet is growing. I’ll be visiting him, and whether it seems unrealistic or not, I’m expecting to feel the same way for him in person as I do across thousands of miles of distance. Generally, he communicates the same and is as enthusiastic as I am about it all, but he has mentioned in the past the possibility of it not being the same in-person – in the lusty, romantic sense.
I suppose you can never say 100% in these sorts of situations, but I’m seeing it as simply ‘closing the gap’ and enjoying the 3D versions of each other! It’s never occurred to me that I might not like the ‘real’ him.
I fully admit: I’m afraid he’ll meet me and reject me. Does anyone have any stories of their own they’d be willing to share, aligned with the above? Can people relate, and are these thoughts/anxieties normal?
I’d be grateful for any tips you have!
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