First time LDR with my bf who has gone to sea
This is my first post as I’ve only just found this site and I’m thankful it exists!
Me and my boyfriend met in March this year and started dating after a few weeks of talking and getting to know each other. We both knew that he would be going to sea in July of this year, and we both agreed that everything would be okay and we would make our relationship work. A week before he is to go, he breaks up with me. It’s all very sudden and he really broke my heart. I thought the next thing he was going to say was I love you not I want to break up with you.
However after a week of being apart and hardly speaking, he messages me saying he really missed me and that he couldn’t cope. We talk for a few days and he asked me to wait for him, and for me to take him back. He called me to tell me he loves me and of course I took him back bc I’m a fool completely in love with him.
We’ve been going out now a week and honestly before we had such a fluffy romantic relationship that I feel has been lost for ever. All he wants to talk about now is sex, and all the things he wants to do when are reunited. I understand that he’s lonely and that it’s going to be a part of making this ldr work, but at the same time I feel like my emotional needs are being completely disregarded. For example, I asked him to call me whenever he gets a chance because I love hearing his voice, but it seems like that’s a lot of effort for him and he doesn’t want to do it. We talk all the time through snapchat but I feel so lonely and unhappy, despite being very happy that he is back in my life. I don’t really know what to do or say, bc I don’t want to annoy him while he’s away but at the same time how can I be in this relationship if I’m not happy?
Me and my boyfriend met in March this year and started dating after a few weeks of talking and getting to know each other. We both knew that he would be going to sea in July of this year, and we both agreed that everything would be okay and we would make our relationship work. A week before he is to go, he breaks up with me. It’s all very sudden and he really broke my heart. I thought the next thing he was going to say was I love you not I want to break up with you.
However after a week of being apart and hardly speaking, he messages me saying he really missed me and that he couldn’t cope. We talk for a few days and he asked me to wait for him, and for me to take him back. He called me to tell me he loves me and of course I took him back bc I’m a fool completely in love with him.
We’ve been going out now a week and honestly before we had such a fluffy romantic relationship that I feel has been lost for ever. All he wants to talk about now is sex, and all the things he wants to do when are reunited. I understand that he’s lonely and that it’s going to be a part of making this ldr work, but at the same time I feel like my emotional needs are being completely disregarded. For example, I asked him to call me whenever he gets a chance because I love hearing his voice, but it seems like that’s a lot of effort for him and he doesn’t want to do it. We talk all the time through snapchat but I feel so lonely and unhappy, despite being very happy that he is back in my life. I don’t really know what to do or say, bc I don’t want to annoy him while he’s away but at the same time how can I be in this relationship if I’m not happy?
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