I wasn't sure how to call this thread but yea I just went with this title lol
So yesterday I've been at a party with a bunch of friends and people I know. Since I usually dont drink much and havent had any alcohol in ages since I'm usually the driver to parties etc, I was like hey you dont have to drive why not drink a lil more tonight, just for fun?
So I got pretty tipsy, not sure if I can call it drunk cause I sobered up after like an hour or two.
Anyways one of my close friends was drunk, she knew what she was doin but basically didnt care, I told her I'd love to kiss her once and she was like "ok let's do it!"
We basically made out 2-3 times lol Not super make-outage but yea lol
Now here's the problem. Over here in Germany (as far as I know even all over Europe) it's basically no big deal to kiss a girl (if you're a girl). I mean like you're not called a lesbian or anythin if you make out with a girl once or twice. I know girls who used to make out with other girls every weekend due to them bein drunk and just not carin. So as I said it's not a big deal here.
I personally don't do it really. The last time I did it (besides of last night) was like 2-3 years ago, as well while super tipsy/drunk and it was my best friend.
So all summed up it's Katy Perry's "I kissed a girl".
Now I've told my SO who is american since I don't hide anythin from him and I thought he'd actually think it's funny.
He was a lil shocked tho, said wow and couldnt tell me if it's good or bad. He asked me if I did it just for fun or if I did it in an experimenting way (like to find out if I like girls over guys). I felt horrible, I didn't expect him to take it this way. He was tellin me ages ago, even before we started datin, that he used to have gf with whom he had things and that he once was sorta kinda makin out with a girl at a party and his best friend joined them (they were also drunk).
I assured him that it was just for fun and that I only did it cause I was drunk and I didnt think its a big deal since she's a good friend of mine and a girl and that I would never cheat on him and that I promise that I wont do it again.
He said that it's whatever and that he has had just such a shitty day so he's not sure what to feel about it.
I am pretty sure tho that it might have been a lil shock for him at first but that he knows that it was just for fun and not in the meanin of cheatin on him or anything.
I have also seen the difference in our ''cultures'' like the American - European/German when it came to him comin here to my place.
He asked if he would be sleepin in my bed and I was sayin yes of course and if he expected anythin else, plus if he wants his own room or bed he can have it. And he was amazed and said that he'd love to share a bed with me.
He than asked if my parents wouldnt mind him sleepin in the same bed as I do and all that stuff and I was like "They don't care as long as I don't get pregnant with 18." and that my parents respect my privacy when a guy is in my room so they don't come knockin on my door every 2 mins to make sure we're not doin anythin dirty etc
And he couldn't believe it lol His parents have never been like that and back at that time he has never slept in the same bed with a girl, he basically wasn't even allowed to do that with his ex-gf whom he's been datin for over a year.
I know I can't generalize Americans, neither do I want to do that, but it's said in the world that they are pretty prude?
My friend once told me he couldnt go alone on vacation with his girl cause otherwise his and her parents would expect them to get married sometime soon.
Has somethin like that ever happend to you? Like you did somethin your SO would never do him/herself cause it's just weird for them due to different cultures?
And has any of those actions caused any missunderstandings or trouble in your relationship?
So yesterday I've been at a party with a bunch of friends and people I know. Since I usually dont drink much and havent had any alcohol in ages since I'm usually the driver to parties etc, I was like hey you dont have to drive why not drink a lil more tonight, just for fun?
So I got pretty tipsy, not sure if I can call it drunk cause I sobered up after like an hour or two.
Anyways one of my close friends was drunk, she knew what she was doin but basically didnt care, I told her I'd love to kiss her once and she was like "ok let's do it!"
We basically made out 2-3 times lol Not super make-outage but yea lol
Now here's the problem. Over here in Germany (as far as I know even all over Europe) it's basically no big deal to kiss a girl (if you're a girl). I mean like you're not called a lesbian or anythin if you make out with a girl once or twice. I know girls who used to make out with other girls every weekend due to them bein drunk and just not carin. So as I said it's not a big deal here.
I personally don't do it really. The last time I did it (besides of last night) was like 2-3 years ago, as well while super tipsy/drunk and it was my best friend.
So all summed up it's Katy Perry's "I kissed a girl".
Now I've told my SO who is american since I don't hide anythin from him and I thought he'd actually think it's funny.
He was a lil shocked tho, said wow and couldnt tell me if it's good or bad. He asked me if I did it just for fun or if I did it in an experimenting way (like to find out if I like girls over guys). I felt horrible, I didn't expect him to take it this way. He was tellin me ages ago, even before we started datin, that he used to have gf with whom he had things and that he once was sorta kinda makin out with a girl at a party and his best friend joined them (they were also drunk).
I assured him that it was just for fun and that I only did it cause I was drunk and I didnt think its a big deal since she's a good friend of mine and a girl and that I would never cheat on him and that I promise that I wont do it again.
He said that it's whatever and that he has had just such a shitty day so he's not sure what to feel about it.
I am pretty sure tho that it might have been a lil shock for him at first but that he knows that it was just for fun and not in the meanin of cheatin on him or anything.
I have also seen the difference in our ''cultures'' like the American - European/German when it came to him comin here to my place.
He asked if he would be sleepin in my bed and I was sayin yes of course and if he expected anythin else, plus if he wants his own room or bed he can have it. And he was amazed and said that he'd love to share a bed with me.
He than asked if my parents wouldnt mind him sleepin in the same bed as I do and all that stuff and I was like "They don't care as long as I don't get pregnant with 18." and that my parents respect my privacy when a guy is in my room so they don't come knockin on my door every 2 mins to make sure we're not doin anythin dirty etc
And he couldn't believe it lol His parents have never been like that and back at that time he has never slept in the same bed with a girl, he basically wasn't even allowed to do that with his ex-gf whom he's been datin for over a year.
I know I can't generalize Americans, neither do I want to do that, but it's said in the world that they are pretty prude?
My friend once told me he couldnt go alone on vacation with his girl cause otherwise his and her parents would expect them to get married sometime soon.
Has somethin like that ever happend to you? Like you did somethin your SO would never do him/herself cause it's just weird for them due to different cultures?
And has any of those actions caused any missunderstandings or trouble in your relationship?
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