Taking things slow

[Floating_cookie]

My boyfriend and I have been only dating from July 2018. We have met in person and spent 2 weeks together until he had to move back in time of college. We asked each other before he left, if we wanted this to be a long distance relationship, or would it just be a fling? It ended up that we both were interested in being in LDR. We said that we would keep things easy, not intense while we were long distance. I still agree with that completely. Sometimes I just wish we could move a little further in our relationship though. Like maybe be vulnerable with each other and start being close emotionally. It's hard for him and I need to be understanding.

Do you think I'm asking for too much after 5 months? Should I be happy with just taking it easy for now?

I hate overthinking.

Floating_Cookie.

[Elzah]

Hello you,
If you really care about your boyfriend, this feeling of wanting more is totally normal and you shouldn't feel bad about it at all
I think you should be honest and explain to him what you feel while letting him know that he can also be honest with you and tell you it if he thinks that it's moving too fast
Just be honest with each other and understanding (which you seem to be) and you should find a compromise

[Floating_cookie]

I think you're right. He is trying his best. We are very open about our feelings and sometimes I feel like I could come across as naggy. I also have had a habit of jumping into relationships in the past and never taking them slow. So this could be on my part where I'm just not being patient enough as well.

[Elzah]

In that case, yes, maybe you should try to take it slow. I understand how difficult it can be when you really like the person, but sometimes it's good and the relationship grows stronger
And don't worry about overthinking, we all do, especially in LDR

[Ejoriah]

I think that if you have agreed not to be intense, vulnerability and emotional closeness seriously blurs that line. I don't think it's wrong of you to want it, but I also can understand why your boyfriend might feel that it goes against what you two had agreed on. However please do bring it up like Elzah said -- if this level of intimacy isn't working for you anymore, that's valid and needs to be addressed.

[Floating_cookie]

I think I will talk to him about it and see what he thinks. We are always very open in our relationship even if it's not what the other person wants to hear. I'll keep you updated on what happens.