2019 Official Roll Call

[waiting]

Just began our long distance. Right now I'm taking a gap year off to work and study for my SATs (I live in New Zealand but I'm hoping to study in America for uni!), and my boyfriend has just moved to another city to start university.
If I get into the university of my dreams, located in Los Angeles, we'll be doing long distance for five years. It's really hard to imagine spending that much time apart, but I know I love him more than anything else, and he feels the same way. We've talked about our future together, and even though we're young we both know that we want to get married when we're older. I want to spend my life with him, so all my fingers are crossed that we somehow make long distance work.

I'm so grateful for this forum and all the success stories as well as the advice, and empathy!!

[TaraMarie]

The past year has been great. We've been married 2 1/2 years and last January my husband finally got a transfer into a new position within his company that allows him to work from home. No more leaving on Mondays and coming back on Fridays! Hallelujah! We've been living together full time for 13 months and it's been great. I got laid off two weeks after he started his new job here, and I started a new job back in June with a great company. I am able to work from home two days a week and I can work any hours In like, so I go in extra early and leave at 2:30, which gives me time to cook dinner and spend lots of time with my husband. He's still my favorite person to spend time with. We travel a lot....I feel like we are in airports nearly as much as we've been over the last several years...but now we are traveling TOGETHER! LIFE IS GREAT!

[Lostviolinist]

We married in 2017. Our son was born last year. It's been hard for us to meet often because of my work in the military. However once I return from an upcoming deployment I will visit her and her family again and this time come back with her and our son. We are satisfied with the path we are on. We are both rather positive and just continue to work towards a better future that we both imagine.

[Hispanda]

Hello everyone. New to this site. Here’s my short story. Met my SO online July 2018, though we lived in the same town. We met up and fell hard. I was due to move mid Oct 2018 but he just wouldn’t let that happen. We ended up living together until mid Jan 2019. He is currently in New Mexico and I am in Oklahoma. Despite this only lasting until mid June 2019, I am going crazy being in a LDR. Due to his circumstances we only get to talk on weekends. Luckily the past few weekends we’ve been able to meet for the night. Still a hard situation. Definitely love reading everyone’s stories!!

[Hispanda]

Hello everyone. New to this site. Here’s my short story. Met my SO online July 2018, though we lived in the same town. We met up and fell hard. I was due to move mid Oct 2018 but he just wouldn’t let that happen. We ended up living together until mid Jan 2019. He is currently in New Mexico and I am in Oklahoma. Despite this only lasting until mid June 2019, I am going crazy being in a LDR. Due to his circumstances we only get to talk on weekends. Luckily the past few weekends we’ve been able to meet for the night. Still a hard situation. Definitely love reading everyone’s stories!!

[desertrose92]

Well I kind of have been hiding from everyone here because of my dismay and shame. My most recent disaster whom I was crazy for never did come for Xmas. In fact, his photo wasn't his and he apparently stole a shit ton of money from some important person in NY so I had 2 out of state cops and the local chief come to my apartment while I was in my jammies with a cold! So after I cooperated with all 3 I used my rage and undecorated my home and called my sister to tell her. Fast forward to me now; I am much over him a little wary about anyone online now and apparently in a new LDR with someone in Africa who actually wants to video call with me and call but understands with my anxiety he'll wait till I'm ready.

[Malaga]

Such a beautiful baby Michelle! Best of luck to you!

We've been married for 3 1/2 years and have a lovely 18-month little boy. Motherhood has affected me profoundly, I've really struggled to cope for several months after giving birth but I'm much better now and aware how lucky we are. Our relationship is solid, there's not much time or energy for romance, but there's a lot of love and acceptance.

[Thriceanangel]

Hello everyone... I'm Jason in NY and I am new here. So my story so far goes like this: I have known my SO (Andrea -In VA now) since we were kids... In fact I broke up with the 6th grade gf I had (Who I would later marry and just divorced in 2017) because I felt I couldn't be true to her while having such feelings for Andrea. Even though she was 2 years older, and had no idea who I was...

Flash forward 30+ years, and through Facebook, we (Andrea and I) had been friends. Though we didn't really interact, she ALWAYS made my heart stop when she would post. So, one day last summer, she posts on a video I had posted of my dog... And I thought "You know what? I've never really had a good conversation with her. Maybe, if nothing else, I can make her smile." So I went her a private message, asking about her and her job. (We are both in the medical field). It becomes evident that she isn't happy in her marriage and is filing for divorce... And that was the end of it. But o couldn't let her go could I? So I asked her if I could talk to her again, and she said she would like that.

We chatted nightly. Then began speaking on the phone. After about a month we decided to meet. It was magic... I have never felt so connected to anyone in my life. Like we were cut from the same cloth; same sense of humor, same taste in movies and TV, same likes, dislikes, everything... But then she had to go back to VA... Though she and her son stayed nearly 2 weeks in the first visit which was only going to be a few days!

We have been together now 8.5 months, and she was even able to stay here for 2 months, and just went back. Now however, due to some complications in her divorce, and the fact that she does have a son there, she has to stay there... It's SO hard after 2 months together... And there's no real end in sight St the moment... Especially given Virginia's Victorian marital laws... So after she was going to get a job up here, and move here, she has to do the same down there... So we are settling in for long term, long distance relationship until the divorce is finalized, and we can maneuver around the stipulations with that.

I go between wanting to give up... And trying to make it work. The funny thing is, that the part where I want to give up, is only because I love her so incredibly much, and HATE being apart from her and alone. Though I know at this time in my life, after having met, dated, and married before, that SHE is the ONLY one worth waiting for.

So does anyone have any experience with ling distance relationships due to kids or custody issues? We would move to move her not up here, and her son would too... But it's unlikely that will happen I guess... Any success stories? Love to hear them!

J

[Lady Dagaz]

New here, posting when I can. Looking to visit my SO next year summer and possibly move over there the year after, so 2021.

[Eaving]

I'm new here, so I'm just trying to get acquainted with the boards and with the community here. But, I guess the update is that my partner comes to visit me in two weeks and a day. When I wake up in the morning tomorrow it will only be two weeks. And, the university I'm attending reached out to me yesterday and asked me if I wanted to stay for the academic year, although I've already committed to being in Israel. They shared with me that the opportunity would still stand when I returned. So, partner and I spoke yesterday about the possibility of moving to NY for at least five years or so after he graduates. He's open to it, and even excited. Go figure.

We're chatting about the idea of moving up here together next summer, even if he'd have to come back down south come fall to finish his degree. He says he's happy to be finally making plans after going so long without any ideas about his future. Fingers crossed that things continue to go well.

[RWhiz]

Congrats on the new addition!


I haven't been regular since I'm not in a LDR anymore. We moved in together a year ago last week. It seems like the LDR part was so long ago now! Anyway things are good in most ways, still going through some minor issues we never faced as a long distance couple, but we're still very happy with each other and are starting to look for a place to buy together. We currently live in my old house, but we'd like something we can buy for us. Anyway I check in very irregularly anymore but should more often. This is a good resource for LDR couples and I liked visiting when I was in one. Good luck everyone!

[sallysue82]

Super excited as I count down till my SO finally comes to USA. . . He’s in for a culture shock from Australia to Texas but we’re both excited!! T-minus 69 days!!! Sooo very ready!

[Happy]

Joining in the Roll Call - Hello everyone!

I'm Jon... My gal is Bekah... she's flying over to see me in 2 weeks! Then our next countdown is currently at 98 days, when I fly back to see her in Kentucky for a whole month...

[sad_neko_123]

Well um where do i begin? My close friends was like, "You should talk to this guy" so he messaged me and little by little i started to realize i was catching feelings. Then on February 15th 2017 he asked if i liked anyone i replied "Yes i do!" And he asked "Can i know who it is?" And i gave him very obvious hints that it was him. He confessed to me that he liked me *blushes* and two years later, we're still going strong. Best feeling in the world when your crush likes you back! 💗💗💗💗

[mcnab182]

I've been building up to this, but here we go:

As of August 5th this year I am in a LDR with one of my closest and best friends for the last (almost) decade. We met originally in 2011 when I was visiting some friends in USA (I'm from the UK).

I've never felt a connection with anyone, even my other best friends, than I have with her. We became close very quickly after the initial meeting and people who saw us together would ask of we were dating. In 2016 she visited me in England and that was the visit where we both realised we were more than friends. We had a month trial of a relationship and I don't think either of us were ready or in the right place for LDR.

Fast forward to July 2019, I was visiting my friends for my birthday and she flew from a different state just to see me for 2 days. We talked. A lot. The talks continued for the next few weeks. Then on August 5th we both agreed that we needed to give a relationship a proper go. Since then I've never felt so happy. It already feels like we have been in a relationship a lot longer than 3 weeks (I think because we know each other so well already) and we have spoken about the future and what we both want and expect. We are on the exact same page. We don't want to rush the actual process but we are already looking at how to close the distance (for future reference) and it feels the most natural and comfortable thing for us to be doing.

I'm flying to see her on Christmas eve. We will spend 2 weeks together, meaning both Christmas and New Year's. I can't wait.