Hi all, am not the best writer so please bare with me.
This my first post and am very happy I came across this forum.
Am not sure what is going on with me lately but am scared am pushing my LDH away.
I have been married to LDH for 3yrs and few months. We have been together for 5yrs.
I never would have believed I'd be in a LDR that been said when I was introduced to LDH sparks flew and from the first date we both knew this would be something amazing and it is.
I still had doubts being the worrier that I am and wasn't convinced it would last as we lived in two different continents. My husband on the other hand goes with the flow and doesn't over think things unlike me. he always says anything worth having takes time, effort and commitment. Amazingly we grew from strength to strength We talk almost every day and text throughout the day.
We saw each other couple months ago when he came over and I felt that this was the best trip we had yet. No argument no drama (most of the time from me). I couldn't believe it it was great. Since he left I feel down and alone. I avoid talking to him when he calls by saying busy with work/other things. I feel pressure to be happy coz there is no reason why I shouldn't be other than the fact my husband is thousands of miles far from me. las week I didn't talk to him for 3 days while he called/texted I ignored it was horrible and I felt so much guilt ignoring his calls but I felt that I had nothing to say and am feeling that way more more these days. The conversation is not what is was before and I know it's from my side but I don't know why or what's changed within me for me to feel this way.
I brought it up with him and because he isn't feeling this way himself he didn't put himself in my situation and just shrugged it off as nothing big and says we will be together soon anyways ( hubby relocating in 4-5 months) and all that will fade. Am not sure whats the best way to make him understand this is not something that is going to go away by itself and we need to find a solution.
Thank you for taking the time to
Read and respond to my post.
All advice would be appreciated.
This my first post and am very happy I came across this forum.
Am not sure what is going on with me lately but am scared am pushing my LDH away.
I have been married to LDH for 3yrs and few months. We have been together for 5yrs.
I never would have believed I'd be in a LDR that been said when I was introduced to LDH sparks flew and from the first date we both knew this would be something amazing and it is.
I still had doubts being the worrier that I am and wasn't convinced it would last as we lived in two different continents. My husband on the other hand goes with the flow and doesn't over think things unlike me. he always says anything worth having takes time, effort and commitment. Amazingly we grew from strength to strength We talk almost every day and text throughout the day.
We saw each other couple months ago when he came over and I felt that this was the best trip we had yet. No argument no drama (most of the time from me). I couldn't believe it it was great. Since he left I feel down and alone. I avoid talking to him when he calls by saying busy with work/other things. I feel pressure to be happy coz there is no reason why I shouldn't be other than the fact my husband is thousands of miles far from me. las week I didn't talk to him for 3 days while he called/texted I ignored it was horrible and I felt so much guilt ignoring his calls but I felt that I had nothing to say and am feeling that way more more these days. The conversation is not what is was before and I know it's from my side but I don't know why or what's changed within me for me to feel this way.
I brought it up with him and because he isn't feeling this way himself he didn't put himself in my situation and just shrugged it off as nothing big and says we will be together soon anyways ( hubby relocating in 4-5 months) and all that will fade. Am not sure whats the best way to make him understand this is not something that is going to go away by itself and we need to find a solution.
Thank you for taking the time to
Read and respond to my post.
All advice would be appreciated.
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