Hi all
This may be a bit of a long message but please bear with me, any advice would be great!
I’m currently in a LDR and met my boyfriend online in March. We were attracted instantly and exchanged numbers and we have video called each other every day since and have fallen in love. I am based in the UK and I am a British citizen and he lives in Italy. However the situation is quite difficult because he has only been resident in Italy for 3 years, he was born elsewhere so getting all the documents he needs for travel is proving difficult.
I can’t travel yet (I’m working on it) as I have a few financial issues and I also have a child who is 5 from a previous relationship and my ex won’t let me leave the country with her! I don’t have anyone else I can rely on to baby sit unfortunately.
This is the first time I have ever entered into a long distance relationship and what I am finding really hard to deal with are the people that doubt the authenticity of the relationship. People who think there’s no possible way you can fall in love with someone you’ve never met. To be honest I’m really struggling. I have not been this happy in a long time as my last relationship ended very badly, and he makes me feel beautiful again and so happy. But at the same time I’m so sad because all I want to do is hug him and kiss him and I can’t. Does it get easier? All I can think of is what if we can’t ever meet? What if it takes too long? What if he gets tired? What if I get tired?
I’m finding it extremely difficult to deal with those who think I’m “wasting my time” or it’s a “fantasy” and there are “plenty of other men” etc. Does anyone have any tips?
Of course I speak to my bf about this and we are planning a future together but every day that passes without him just makes me more sad that I’m not with him. He tells me I should be patient, he loves me and he knows it will happen soon I just need to hold on a bit longer.
I feel like I’m at a loose end and I don’t know whether I should just end it or keep on fighting. I have felt like giving up several times, not because I don’t love him, because I do and being without him is killing me. However, I feel terrible because he has never ever thought of giving up on me, not even for one minute. How do I continue being strong?
Any advice would be great
Thanks
Gemma xxx
This may be a bit of a long message but please bear with me, any advice would be great!
I’m currently in a LDR and met my boyfriend online in March. We were attracted instantly and exchanged numbers and we have video called each other every day since and have fallen in love. I am based in the UK and I am a British citizen and he lives in Italy. However the situation is quite difficult because he has only been resident in Italy for 3 years, he was born elsewhere so getting all the documents he needs for travel is proving difficult.
I can’t travel yet (I’m working on it) as I have a few financial issues and I also have a child who is 5 from a previous relationship and my ex won’t let me leave the country with her! I don’t have anyone else I can rely on to baby sit unfortunately.
This is the first time I have ever entered into a long distance relationship and what I am finding really hard to deal with are the people that doubt the authenticity of the relationship. People who think there’s no possible way you can fall in love with someone you’ve never met. To be honest I’m really struggling. I have not been this happy in a long time as my last relationship ended very badly, and he makes me feel beautiful again and so happy. But at the same time I’m so sad because all I want to do is hug him and kiss him and I can’t. Does it get easier? All I can think of is what if we can’t ever meet? What if it takes too long? What if he gets tired? What if I get tired?
I’m finding it extremely difficult to deal with those who think I’m “wasting my time” or it’s a “fantasy” and there are “plenty of other men” etc. Does anyone have any tips?
Of course I speak to my bf about this and we are planning a future together but every day that passes without him just makes me more sad that I’m not with him. He tells me I should be patient, he loves me and he knows it will happen soon I just need to hold on a bit longer.
I feel like I’m at a loose end and I don’t know whether I should just end it or keep on fighting. I have felt like giving up several times, not because I don’t love him, because I do and being without him is killing me. However, I feel terrible because he has never ever thought of giving up on me, not even for one minute. How do I continue being strong?
Any advice would be great
Thanks
Gemma xxx
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