I wanted to slap her.

[Karringtyn]

After work a few of us were talking..

And a friend said..."you just are SOOO in love and happy.."

to which another friend replied....

"eh how many hours seperate you two now?! Just wait till he is moved here and see if it works out"...

I looked at her...shook my head...and said..."you really are clueless aren't you?!"

I wanted to slap her.

My feelings really were hurt...but then I chalked it up to ignorance. And if I were in her shoes...I wouldn't understand either.

[will]

That would piss me off too. I think friend number 2 was jealous.

[lisaar910]

I can't see you saying anything that hurtful to anyone even if you didn't understand. She was way out of line and completely insensitive! She's probably just jealous that your LDR is better than anything she has going in her life. We know the truth here so forget her!

[Andy]

I know it's hurtful, especially coming from a friend, but comments like that would sooner make me laugh at that person's ignorance rather than take it to heart. Some people just don't understand, and why would they in all honestly? Like you said about putting yourself in her shoes. I remember thinking that meeting someone online and falling in love before you meet just wasn't "real." Shows what I knew back then

Water off a duck's back. That's all it should be

You know how it is with your SO and that's all that matters, frankly who cares what others with zero experience of LDRs think? You know that it's already working out, but it'll take until you've closed the distance (and probably then a couple of years ) before people like that will believe it, but so what?

Don't let them get to you, Luce

[Karringtyn]

Eh not really thinking much of it....I do know what I have.

Makes me feel sorry for someone when they feel the need to be hurtful...

And don't get me started on ignorance...

I surround myself with support.

All others can step aside....as I walk through...hand waving....buh bye.

[Èternity]

There are such miserable people in the world. They only way that they can feel better about themselves is to belittle others. I'd be waving them goodbye with one hand and flipping the bird with the other, seriously.

[Silviar]

You gotta love the Scrooges of the world. I hope you hang out with her less, and I hope she feel at least some embarrassment for her rude behavior. Next time, be sure to give her the 'your manners are that of an ill-tempered 5 year old brat' face, so she realizes how rude she was. *nodnod*

I don't understand what's with people and manners. They apparently left our country along with Jerry Springer. Sheesh!

[Darth_Taco]

Oh Lord...I likely would've punched her in the forehead screaming "Equal rights, bitch!" and ran to confuse her into what just happened. Then again I'm a violent individual and a horrible example to the impressionable everywhere ;_;.

You did the right thing by holding back. It's best just to ignore it, unless she keep bugging you about it, then punch her in the gut ;D (or report her for harassment, killing all my fantasies ;_;!). Ignorant people tend to not want to learn. Hence half the crap on this world :P. Best way to show her she was wrong is by doing just that. Live happily ever after with your love! Then rub it in her face! >:'D

[squiddie]

I vote for the Darth Taco method of dealing with it. If only for pure comedic effect.

I get how you feel right now. Sometimes I think dealing with other peoples' perceptions of long distance relationships is harder than the relationship itself.

[Sopho]

Actually, much as I understand you (my friends all gave me faces like "grow up" when i told them about Carla), I also understand her in a way. I mean I used to come from her world too, I used to think falling in love with someone over the internet is a bogus, and anyone who says they did, is just lieing to himself. I used to be one of those people, full of wrong assumptions on something i have never felt. Let's give her a break people, I'm sure she didn't mean bad (if she is a real friend that is, which is of course entirely on you to determine Karringtyn, since you know her well), she's just clueless of what is really going on, from her perspective this isn't real. So it's no point getting angry or hurt at something done out of ignorance. My heart goes out to you. My friend keeps saying the same thing and I just ignore him, since he is clueless (plus very confused in relationships in general, so how can i ask understanding from him on anything at all in that sphere?).

[Karringtyn]

Thank you so much for the support.

Great that someone rated this thread a 1 as a bad post...very supportive. (sarcasm)

[Rugger]

People can be so ignorant at times. The boy I was seeing casually when I met T told me " WHEN you guys break up, give me a call". I was so mad at him!

[Sopho]

now that's just arrogant, that kinda guy deserves a punch in the you know where!

[NikkiP]

*gives you a big giant hug*

The first time I ever met somebody I had met online in person, I was a freshman in high school! So the whole meeting people on line thing is not greek to me at all but to some it definitely is. However the being in an actual long distance relationship is. I know that I wonder what it'll be like when I can see Ryan whenever I want to but I know that it's certainly not going to change how I feel about him.

If you've been with your SO for 11 months, regardless of how often you see each other, you're going to know his habits, and mannerisms and what he is really about. Just shrug her off and next time be like "I'm sorry, did you hear something?"

Glad your happiness shows on your face and has people asking questions!

[Mio]

You are right, you must feel sorry for them, probably they have never experienced real love.