Coronavirus Stories. Post yours here. Support and encourage each other

[kah0664]

During this time I see all these couples being quarantined at home together saying, yay we now have more time for one another and stuff like that and it really frustrates me that I can't be one of those couples being able to spend more time with my SO. He is also afraid to travel even by car so I won't even be getting a visit from him over the summer because he said it will be a couple months before he travels anywhere again. Anyway, I just really miss him as anyone would.
Thanks for listening.

Hahaha I see the opposite. Breakups and divorces from too much time locked up together. My boyfriend and I joke about this- months apart or months between 2 walls together with nothing to do... too much, too much.

[OhioJim]

Hahaha I see the opposite. Breakups and divorces from too much time locked up together. My boyfriend and I joke about this- months apart or months between 2 walls together with nothing to do... too much, too much.

9 months from now the maternity wards will see a surge in business.

[Lostviolinist]

I had to send my wife and my son back to China due to some problems with immigration back in November. I had plans to visit at least twice this year while the paperwork processed but with the spread of the virus and the Jan 31st DOS/DOD travel ban to China my plans were cancelled for me. I have been hoping that airlines start up again in May and the travel bans are lifted but as each day goes on I'm not so sure it will happen anymore. I don't know if I will be given an opportunity to see them at all this year. If the disease returns in a second wave to China, I don't even know if my wife's visa interview will still happen or if the embassies will close down again and they will just tell us "tough luck, deal with it." I for a while felt that in a time of crisis, the government was more than willing to completely abandon my family to their fate. Though a response from the embassy at least has let me believe that in the worst disaster they might give us a chance. Now with it growing in the States more than in China, even if a path to the States was allowed I can't really ask her to make the long trip with our child. As it is now, even if they do lift the travel ban in May, I may not even be able to visit them if the Chinese enforce a quarantine of all entries from risk areas.
Of the 6 years we have spent apart. This 7th and hopefully last year seems like it will be the most frustrating one of all.

[Atlantic Crossroads]

I'm very worried about my man. He's a smoker with no health insurance. If he gets corona, how would he get the medical care he needs? I have savings which I would gladly send, but from what little I know about hospital care, it would barely make a dent in the bill. He's more at risk for developing pneumonia too. I'm that worried, that I'm debating whether to ask him to self isolate as a precaution. I don't know how he'd take that as a request from me. I may do him a deal that we both isolate. I've been thinking about doing it myself anyway, and if it means I get the chance of a future with him, I wouldn't hesitate.

[OhioJim]

I'm very worried about my man. He's a smoker with no health insurance. If he gets corona, how would he get the medical care he needs? I have savings which I would gladly send, but from what little I know about hospital care, it would barely make a dent in the bill. He's more at risk for developing pneumonia too. I'm that worried, that I'm debating whether to ask him to self isolate as a precaution. I don't know how he'd take that as a request from me. I may do him a deal that we both isolate. I've been thinking about doing it myself anyway, and if it means I get the chance of a future with him, I wouldn't hesitate.

If what they say about the virus is true, then it is less likely to occur in Arizona. It is said that the virus doesn't like hot weather, but the experts don't know yet.

My SO is in the Philippines, where a cold day (night actually) is 75f degrees. Their temperature has been around 85-95f degrees, and they certainly have Coronavirus there.

[Atlantic Crossroads]

If what they say about the virus is true, then it is less likely to occur in Arizona. It is said that the virus doesn't like hot weather, but the experts don't know yet.

My SO is in the Philippines, where a cold day (night actually) is 75f degrees. Their temperature has been around 85-95f degrees, and they certainly have Coronavirus there.

I know they do have cases in Arizona already, and the weather hasn't warmed up yet. I'm hoping there may be some truth in this theory, although it hasn't seemed to make any difference in Australia.

We have just talked about it, and although he feels I am being excessively worried, he's only gone and ordered himself a gas mask! Whilst it may well be overkill, and it will likely get him an interesting reputation in his town, I love that he has done that for me. It's one of his many brilliant qualities that makes me love him so much. If it's important to me even if isn't to him, he will still do things like that for me.

You can probably see why I proposed to him after our first visit.

[snow]

I was supposed to go on Bildungskarenz during which I was going to visit my SO in the US to see if I wanted to move there. Now, due to the pandemic, everything has been canceled. So, we aren't going to see each other for a while which is not that big a deal, because we can deal with long distance ok. However, I'm reconsidering me moving to US since I can see that it's not a good idea to move there with a very apparent lack of social safety net. I'm also doubtful that leadership will actually change things when the crisis is over. For now I'm sitting back and watching, since I can do nothing else staying home.

If you're in Germany or Austria, I would definitely consider seeing if you can get your SO to live with you. I have been living in the US for the past 5 years to be with mine (originally from Austria) and I can tell you that it is very different. There is not a lot of help unless you are a citizen and even then, it has this stigma that makes it difficult to even try and get.

[BaconGirl05]

My SO and I bought tickets to the States in May to visit my family. It looks like we're not going to be able to make it. I'm really bummed because I haven't been back in about 3 years and due to certain personal circumstances, we probably won't get another chance for another few years..

[snow]

My daycare reopened and now we will give first responders child care, which is absolutely needed and wonderful (it's free for them!) but that also means, I cannot return to work and they won't let me work from home.

[Bobbi]

Hi. I'm new here, happy to have found LFAD.

So, me and my SO are only about 200 kilometers apart. However, with the COVID whatnot, he could as well be on the other side of the globe, it wouldn't make a diference.

He would love to visit and honestly, nothing would make me happier, but we look after my 92 y.o. great grandmother, who is, due to her age, very endangered by the virus. If it was just me and my parents, mom wouldn't object, because he likes SO a lot, but with grandma she's adamant that he can't visit.

We were used to seeing each other at least two weekends a month. Now we haven't seen each other for a month and the virus situation is only worsening, so we have no idea when will be the next time we'll be together. We make videocalls, started reading a book together, I sent him a package with about dozen letters to open in certain situations, e.g. when he's sad, when he's done ironing his shirts (he hates it), when he's drawing something etc.

I feel like it's not enough. I'm just tired of missing him so much. I think maybe I'm just spoiled of us visiting each other a lot in the past, so that I can't get used to us being separated...

I just wanted to say thank God that LFAD exists!

[Ranidae]

Hello all,

I'm in the same situation as everyone. He was supposed to visit me for the first time in April, but our countries both closed their borders and enforced a Quarantine. It sucks. We were looking forward to this trip after 5 months apart, and not knowing when we will meet again is frustrating. But it's is bigger than ourselves, so there's nothing else to do but wait :/

Stay strong, people. And call each other often! It always cheers me up to see him (Online games have helped a lot too)

EDIT: I just came across this article, which I found was helpful and well-written:
https://www.theguardian.com/world/20...liver-burkeman

[Annaxkdx]

Hey everyone, I am new here. I am very sorry to hear what everyone is going through, it's definitely a really tough time. I was hoping to be able to buy a plane ticket to see my boyfriend in June or July, but I have no idea what to do now because I have no idea when it will be safe to travel again. We've been together 4 years, and usually I see him 1-2 times per year. I am in the USA and he is in Poland. I haven't seen him since February of 2019, since then, school and work have been in the way of us seeing each other. Summer is my only opportunity to go see him and I am so scared that I won't be able to see him before school starts at the end of August By now it's already been almost 14 months since we've seen each other, this is the longest we've ever had to wait. It feels even harder because this summer we really want to become engaged and start the fiancé visa for him to come to the USA....I really don't want that process to be delayed as it's already a longer wait too

[Cleavage95]

It’s hard with the virus going on. BF and i are working from our homes. His ex is coming to the house to use the gym and the office .. fax machine, high speed internet etc. So she is underfoot a lot which means no communication with my SO. She’s making the divorce process a never-ending battle. Therefore, we have not met in person and not sure how long this process will take. It’s wearing us down. We talk by phone, text and video chat as much as we can but we are both getting the blues. Any ideas??

[OhioJim]

So the divorce is not final? If the papers have been filed, then can't he keep her out of the house?

(And I do not want this thread to drift away from the main topic.)

[ILoveYou22]

We met online just before the lockdown and now we can't meet!

Hi guys!

Me and this guy met online a few days before our country went on lockdown.

We only live about 40 minutes away from each other but with the lockdown and all the control there is on the streets it feels like we're on a distance relationship and I don't know how to navigate this so decided to come here to ask for advice, hope that's ok!

We hit it off right from the start and started messaging each other non stop all day everyday. We talked about meeting for a coffee, but then we went on lockdown and couldn't do it, so we continued to talk online.

We understand each other so much, we have been vulnerable, have deep conversations, have lots of banter, share our thoughts and feelings, it's just wonderful. And we have been also helping and supporting each other during these though times.

I feel like I am catching feelings for him much more than just friendship and can't understand it because we never met before!

We've had a conversation where he said to me that for now we're just friends because he wants to protect me. That he doesn't want to tell me he likes me and it's this and that, and then when we meet there's nothing.

I totally understand what he is saying and agree, because it can be the same for me.

But on the other hand I do have feelings for him already and don't know what to do, because obviously I cannot tell him I do have feelings after what he said to me, but then I feel like it wants to come out so badly.

I felt like he kinda feels the same for me probably, but prefers to be cautious until we meet, something we don't know at this point when it's gonna happen.

Any advice?