Hello everyone;
Firstly, I apologize if this is not the correct space to post this message but it’s my very first one and I’m very new to this.
My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for nearly two years now and we deeply care for each other and have plans to get married later when I have reached a position when I’m financially self-sufficient and can stand on my own two feet.
So far, we have had our share of ups and downs in the relationship and thankfully we have trumped over them but we’re faced with a new situation that just may pull the plug on the relationship.
Unfortunately, I have plans to emigrate to another country because of the difficulties of securing a future in my home country and will probably not be able to come back at least for the foreseeable future (talking about 7 years here).
Though we have made plans and commitments to each other, what’s even more regrettable is the fact that my girlfriend, who’s living with her parents currently, is not on good terms with her parents at all and nearly every night is an emotional and mental roller coaster for her. She thinks the only way she’ll be ever from this is through marriage, even to just escape the unbearable situation at home. I should also add that she’s also well aware that currently, I’m not in a position to make such a commitment because I’m a grad student with limited to no income of my own.
Recently, she’s had a suitor and she’s considering hearing what he has to say and give him a chance to see if he’s marriage material. It’s not the first time and she already knows that as her lover it’s upsetting me because I’m still here and haven’t left, yet she believes if she says no right up front, she might lose her chance for later times when I’m not around, at least physically.
Those closest to me tell me that just end it because you’re moving to a whole new world filled with lots of opportunities including those to start a relationship anew, but honestly, I can’t bring myself to the idea of just terminating a relationship like a snap of my fingers. I just cannot.
So, to sum up, does anyone have any idea how I can cope with this?
Thank you very much!
Firstly, I apologize if this is not the correct space to post this message but it’s my very first one and I’m very new to this.
My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for nearly two years now and we deeply care for each other and have plans to get married later when I have reached a position when I’m financially self-sufficient and can stand on my own two feet.
So far, we have had our share of ups and downs in the relationship and thankfully we have trumped over them but we’re faced with a new situation that just may pull the plug on the relationship.
Unfortunately, I have plans to emigrate to another country because of the difficulties of securing a future in my home country and will probably not be able to come back at least for the foreseeable future (talking about 7 years here).
Though we have made plans and commitments to each other, what’s even more regrettable is the fact that my girlfriend, who’s living with her parents currently, is not on good terms with her parents at all and nearly every night is an emotional and mental roller coaster for her. She thinks the only way she’ll be ever from this is through marriage, even to just escape the unbearable situation at home. I should also add that she’s also well aware that currently, I’m not in a position to make such a commitment because I’m a grad student with limited to no income of my own.
Recently, she’s had a suitor and she’s considering hearing what he has to say and give him a chance to see if he’s marriage material. It’s not the first time and she already knows that as her lover it’s upsetting me because I’m still here and haven’t left, yet she believes if she says no right up front, she might lose her chance for later times when I’m not around, at least physically.
Those closest to me tell me that just end it because you’re moving to a whole new world filled with lots of opportunities including those to start a relationship anew, but honestly, I can’t bring myself to the idea of just terminating a relationship like a snap of my fingers. I just cannot.
So, to sum up, does anyone have any idea how I can cope with this?
Thank you very much!
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