Hello! 25m and dating 23f internationally. im new here and just need someone to talk to who has experience. weve been talking for a year and dating for 5 months. shes been nothing short of amazing and we have made plans to visit one another in the near future.
So before dating we were just exchanging language and culture as I love spanish culture. shes studying/working to become a Doctor and shes been so inspiring to me as shes super ambitious. after awhile we originally quit talking because I thought things had ran their course. after a week she messaged me saying she missed our friendship. after that we ended up becoming super close and she stated shes catching feelings for me and I shared the same feelings. she said many times she thought I was alittle cold at times so I worked to break down walls for her, we only became closer once I opened up more. after a couple more months she stated that all she wanted a relationship and I wanted to hold off purely because I really cared and just wanted to wait for the right time. The day before her birthday we made it official and it was amazing from that point forward.
During the couple months weve been together my uncle had passed away and it caused me to be alittle distant. she called me out and just wanted to know why I was being distant. we talked, we bonded even deeper, and ive never been happier. we spent many nights up late texting and calling one another like normal couples.
Fast forward to now, shes busier with work and im aware. I give her space when she needs it and im fine with that. just recently she had her first weekend off from work and I was excited for her to spend time with her friends. I knew she wouldnt be able to talk to much so I let her text me when she could. Sunday would roll around and she was super distant. it seemed that she would ignore when i was trying to be cute with her so I gave it some time but eventually asked if everything was alright and if something changed between us. she said shes stressed, overworked and under slept. she reassured me that her feelings were the same but that my insecurities bother her. All I really wanted was to know how her weekend was and some reassurance after her distance.
Since then, the conversations are when she decides and still offers minimal reassurance. the most reassuring statement came yesterday when she apologized for not being the best girlfriend and she was sorry about her being distant yet her attitude still seems dry.
I love her so I am willing to give her time, but it feels like she knows im suffering. I just miss the girl I fell inlove with and im conflicted whether to profess more of my feelings or give her more space. I dont want to smother her and push her away but I need her to know that I love her and support her.
If this continues for too long then I feel like I will seriously lose myself in my thoughts. my heart thinks we have a real shot at love for the long haul but my heads creating scenarios where shes withholding something or has fallen out of love.
Hopefully I can get some insight from people in here who have had success in their LDR and how theyve dealt with rough patches. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Is she showing signs of red flags? please help me if you can
Thank you
So before dating we were just exchanging language and culture as I love spanish culture. shes studying/working to become a Doctor and shes been so inspiring to me as shes super ambitious. after awhile we originally quit talking because I thought things had ran their course. after a week she messaged me saying she missed our friendship. after that we ended up becoming super close and she stated shes catching feelings for me and I shared the same feelings. she said many times she thought I was alittle cold at times so I worked to break down walls for her, we only became closer once I opened up more. after a couple more months she stated that all she wanted a relationship and I wanted to hold off purely because I really cared and just wanted to wait for the right time. The day before her birthday we made it official and it was amazing from that point forward.
During the couple months weve been together my uncle had passed away and it caused me to be alittle distant. she called me out and just wanted to know why I was being distant. we talked, we bonded even deeper, and ive never been happier. we spent many nights up late texting and calling one another like normal couples.
Fast forward to now, shes busier with work and im aware. I give her space when she needs it and im fine with that. just recently she had her first weekend off from work and I was excited for her to spend time with her friends. I knew she wouldnt be able to talk to much so I let her text me when she could. Sunday would roll around and she was super distant. it seemed that she would ignore when i was trying to be cute with her so I gave it some time but eventually asked if everything was alright and if something changed between us. she said shes stressed, overworked and under slept. she reassured me that her feelings were the same but that my insecurities bother her. All I really wanted was to know how her weekend was and some reassurance after her distance.
Since then, the conversations are when she decides and still offers minimal reassurance. the most reassuring statement came yesterday when she apologized for not being the best girlfriend and she was sorry about her being distant yet her attitude still seems dry.
I love her so I am willing to give her time, but it feels like she knows im suffering. I just miss the girl I fell inlove with and im conflicted whether to profess more of my feelings or give her more space. I dont want to smother her and push her away but I need her to know that I love her and support her.
If this continues for too long then I feel like I will seriously lose myself in my thoughts. my heart thinks we have a real shot at love for the long haul but my heads creating scenarios where shes withholding something or has fallen out of love.
Hopefully I can get some insight from people in here who have had success in their LDR and how theyve dealt with rough patches. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Is she showing signs of red flags? please help me if you can
Thank you
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