My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years. He lives all the way in Florida and I live in the middle-of-nowhere Oklahoma, so we have quite a distance. I am a sophomore in college and he is a junior. We are reaching that point of what happens after college.
We had plans to be together after high school, but due to $$$...well, you can figure out that without causing major financial issues on one of us that we would have to wait it out for a few more years. That was a big downer.
Now, we are reaching an end to that road, at least for him. Due to expense, I still live at home with my mom but I'm in college! I am not ashamed of it since I'm only 20 years old. She has sent out the offer that if he wants to finally close the gap between us and come here for his Masters that she will house him for free. She would be more than happy to take him in until he and I have money for a place of our own within the year or so after he arrives. She even offered to help him move all of his stuff here from Florida!
However, when I mentioned this offer to him, he seemed to blow it off as if he doesn't want to talk about it. I don't want to push it on him because I understand that this is a BIG transition and it isn't like we haven't discussed moving before. He has told me that he will move to be with me and that he loves Oklahoma. Maybe he is surprised at how quickly all of this got here? I don't know how to bring it up again, in fear that he'll just blow it off again with another "yeah, sure" and nothing else. Btw, it isn't a confident/enthusiastic "yeah, sure" either...
I would hear opinions or if anyone has any advice of how I could handle this situation, please ! It would mean a lot! Thanks!!
We had plans to be together after high school, but due to $$$...well, you can figure out that without causing major financial issues on one of us that we would have to wait it out for a few more years. That was a big downer.
Now, we are reaching an end to that road, at least for him. Due to expense, I still live at home with my mom but I'm in college! I am not ashamed of it since I'm only 20 years old. She has sent out the offer that if he wants to finally close the gap between us and come here for his Masters that she will house him for free. She would be more than happy to take him in until he and I have money for a place of our own within the year or so after he arrives. She even offered to help him move all of his stuff here from Florida!
However, when I mentioned this offer to him, he seemed to blow it off as if he doesn't want to talk about it. I don't want to push it on him because I understand that this is a BIG transition and it isn't like we haven't discussed moving before. He has told me that he will move to be with me and that he loves Oklahoma. Maybe he is surprised at how quickly all of this got here? I don't know how to bring it up again, in fear that he'll just blow it off again with another "yeah, sure" and nothing else. Btw, it isn't a confident/enthusiastic "yeah, sure" either...
I would hear opinions or if anyone has any advice of how I could handle this situation, please ! It would mean a lot! Thanks!!
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