Hey, ya'll.
I need to vent, and maybe get some advice on how to nip this jealousy before it becomes a monster. This is super long but the last paragraph sorta hits the heart of what I'm asking. The rest is back story.
With in a very few days of talking Rick and I were talking about our current living arrangements. I live with my mom. He lived with several others, including an ex gf. He was straight up telling me about her, and that they are "better friends than anything else."
We even ended up talking about her extremely painful menstrual stuff....and he's sent me a few pics of the two of them that were quite recent. Well, much to my dismay she is not hideous...she's actually quite pretty.
Anyway, I've told him that it makes me jealous and insecure when he talks about her. I know they were friends and more well before he knew I existed. And he's assured me several times that they are merely friends, that he loves me and only wants to be with me. While I trust him....it's damn near impossible for me not to get a bit upset when he does mention her. How the hell do I deal with this... Had a similar problem when I was seeing my last SO, and they weren't even close. It is part of what started putting emotional distance between us & I can't bare to let history repeat its self.
I know I have a great personality. I know I know how to show someone what they mean to me. I even know I'm pretty damned good in bed. I just am having a hard time seeing what makes him want to be with me. He's good looking, sweet as hell, so its hard for me to figure out how he's even single lol lucky for me he is, and for some unfathomable to me reason he thinks he wants to build a life with me.
So, long story shorter... How can a person learn not to get so crazy jealous over the ex gf turned best friend? What can I do to get a little self esteem going to make it all a little easier? I've got a hell of a good man waiting for me again, I don't want to screw this up over stupid stuff!
And p.s.
He's still friendly with most if not all of his exs...just not so close with the others.
I need to vent, and maybe get some advice on how to nip this jealousy before it becomes a monster. This is super long but the last paragraph sorta hits the heart of what I'm asking. The rest is back story.
With in a very few days of talking Rick and I were talking about our current living arrangements. I live with my mom. He lived with several others, including an ex gf. He was straight up telling me about her, and that they are "better friends than anything else."
We even ended up talking about her extremely painful menstrual stuff....and he's sent me a few pics of the two of them that were quite recent. Well, much to my dismay she is not hideous...she's actually quite pretty.
Anyway, I've told him that it makes me jealous and insecure when he talks about her. I know they were friends and more well before he knew I existed. And he's assured me several times that they are merely friends, that he loves me and only wants to be with me. While I trust him....it's damn near impossible for me not to get a bit upset when he does mention her. How the hell do I deal with this... Had a similar problem when I was seeing my last SO, and they weren't even close. It is part of what started putting emotional distance between us & I can't bare to let history repeat its self.
I know I have a great personality. I know I know how to show someone what they mean to me. I even know I'm pretty damned good in bed. I just am having a hard time seeing what makes him want to be with me. He's good looking, sweet as hell, so its hard for me to figure out how he's even single lol lucky for me he is, and for some unfathomable to me reason he thinks he wants to build a life with me.
So, long story shorter... How can a person learn not to get so crazy jealous over the ex gf turned best friend? What can I do to get a little self esteem going to make it all a little easier? I've got a hell of a good man waiting for me again, I don't want to screw this up over stupid stuff!
And p.s.
He's still friendly with most if not all of his exs...just not so close with the others.
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