This is my first post here and my first "long distance" relationship. I have dated within the U.S. (short flight or less than 5 hour drive away), but never across water.
Brief history: I met my guy at a Super Bowl party his family members were throwing. I actually went as a guest of a mutual friend of ours. From the time he walked through the door, there was a spark. Ironically, the friend who invited me to the Super Bowl Party expressed romantic interest in him, so I decided to back off and encourage them getting closer (they had interacted in years past). As the weeks progressed, we would all end up at the same functions and exchange pleasantries, and the more we talked the more I liked him, but knew I didn't have the freedom to pursue anything because of my friend who was interested. As fate would have it, we ended up at yet another function together WITHOUT the friend, and he explained to me that he was NOT interested in her romantically, and would like to go out. When I expressed discomfort with the situation (my friend being interested in him), he assured me that he would do anything he needed to clear up the situation so that we could go out.
That was two weeks ago. Since our first date on 4/6, we have been practically inseparable. Though we both have busy schedules, we both make concessions to spend time together because we knew that he would be leaving the country tomorrow. I have been on the verge of tears all day.
Here's the clincher: he's from the U.S. but works in Europe. He will be gone for 4 - 8 week intervals over the next 9 months or so. I'm totally terrified that this was just a fantasy two weeks and he will forget about me and have fun all over Europe (especially since I haven't given up the goods yet). He's assured me that he believes in monogamy and that this is going to be easier than I think. I just don't know.
I don't know him well enough to trust or distrust him, so I am going with my gut which says that he is being totally honest with me.
How do I handle this? Any suggestions on preventing the inevitable airport breakdown?
Brief history: I met my guy at a Super Bowl party his family members were throwing. I actually went as a guest of a mutual friend of ours. From the time he walked through the door, there was a spark. Ironically, the friend who invited me to the Super Bowl Party expressed romantic interest in him, so I decided to back off and encourage them getting closer (they had interacted in years past). As the weeks progressed, we would all end up at the same functions and exchange pleasantries, and the more we talked the more I liked him, but knew I didn't have the freedom to pursue anything because of my friend who was interested. As fate would have it, we ended up at yet another function together WITHOUT the friend, and he explained to me that he was NOT interested in her romantically, and would like to go out. When I expressed discomfort with the situation (my friend being interested in him), he assured me that he would do anything he needed to clear up the situation so that we could go out.
That was two weeks ago. Since our first date on 4/6, we have been practically inseparable. Though we both have busy schedules, we both make concessions to spend time together because we knew that he would be leaving the country tomorrow. I have been on the verge of tears all day.
Here's the clincher: he's from the U.S. but works in Europe. He will be gone for 4 - 8 week intervals over the next 9 months or so. I'm totally terrified that this was just a fantasy two weeks and he will forget about me and have fun all over Europe (especially since I haven't given up the goods yet). He's assured me that he believes in monogamy and that this is going to be easier than I think. I just don't know.
I don't know him well enough to trust or distrust him, so I am going with my gut which says that he is being totally honest with me.
How do I handle this? Any suggestions on preventing the inevitable airport breakdown?
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