Found out he's cyber-cheating!

[Benni]

Glad you aren't desperate like others who are willing to throw their life away to be used. Hope you have better luck in the future, *hugs*

Thank you for that!! I used to be the desperate woman but, upon reading what you wrote, I realize I am not that woman anymore!!

[dandelion]

You really did a good thing! I am proud of you!

I wish you all the best in the future!

Thank you for that!! I used to be the desperate woman but, upon reading what you wrote, I realize I am not that woman anymore!!

[Benni]

He's been online for almost 3 hours and didn't reply to the email so I'm assuming he's accepted my decision and that I'm not worth fighting for. Right now, I feel relief that's it done with. The tears I need to shed? -- they're coming soon........

[ioanna]

I just read the whole thread...

Benni you are worth so so so so much more than that!

Sending you lots of warm thoughts and cool hugs (because its so warm out)

[browncoat368]

Im so sorry...I hope that all works out well for you. HUGS

[digitalfever]

Than you all so much again! I replied to his "Are you sure........" with:

"You have already stated you refuse to be the man I need -- one who is faithful and loves only me. You said will not stop the cybersex with others and I can never trust you again. So there's no point to further discussion."

Now, I hope that ends this mess once and for all!

I'm sorry this happened!

I hope you stick around even though you ended your relationship!

[SquishyLove]

He always calls me on Friday nights at 10p. Instead, he left me this message ....

"No phone call tonight. Even in an internet relationship, I need some space same as I would in a real life situation. Later...."

An internet relationship?? What??? Fuck this shit. He's getting an email today. I'm done!

I'll get back to ya'll later.

I also found his calling it an "internet relationship" when you guys had met and spent time together in person rather shitty. I'd be beyond pissed in your shoes!

I will say that I'm sorry you had to end your relationship, because I know from your posts how much you loved this guy and had invested a lot, but it's better to find out earlier on than later -- he did you a favor by showing you his true colors. You'll feel sad, but you'll also get over it and feel better that you dodged a bullet later on. I hope you stick around too! *HUGS*

Also, I know how you feel, as I've been cheated on by an ex, both cyber and real-life cheating, and he also flagrantly disregarded my feelings about it when I finally found out what had been going on. You're better off without this asshole in your life!

[abna1]

I've just read the whole thread and you've done exactly the right thing ! I can only imagine how you feel right now. I'm very sorry !
Like everyone said, this guy is a complete ass. Going behind your back and cheating (cos that's what it is! no discussion needed) disrespecting your feelings like that, degrading your relationship to an "internet relationship"...
I'm so glad that you found out before going to see him !

You deserve soooo much more ! Take care

[Benni]

Thanks for all the support! ((HUGS)) Yes, I intend to stick around -- hopefully I can help someone the way ya'll have helped me.

I must say I'm doubting myself today. I've been checking his messages between him and her and there's been no cybersex for 3 days now, just friendly exchanges. I'm asking myself "Maybe it was a one time thing and he just didn't get an satisfaction through her? Maybe I was too hard on him?"

But, I must remember his reaction, his comments about my jealousy and about our internet relationship, etc.

I MUST remember!!!!

[ThePiedPiper]

Thanks for all the support! ((HUGS)) Yes, I intend to stick around -- hopefully I can help someone the way ya'll have helped me.

I must say I'm doubting myself today. I've been checking his messages between him and her and there's been no cybersex for 3 days now, just friendly exchanges. I'm asking myself "Maybe it was a one time thing and he just didn't get an satisfaction through her? Maybe I was too hard on him?"

But, I must remember his reaction, his comments about my jealousy and about our internet relationship, etc.

I MUST remember!!!!

Yes, and him being on his best behaviour now doesn't mean he won't cave and do this in the future, especially since he said he sees nothing wrong with having cybersex with other women.

[libelle]

I agree with what Thepiedpiper pointed out. I would also add that him continuing to write with her after having disrespected you with her, speaks loud enough as well. And also the fact that he didn't make any atttemt to appologize as well. Also - you shouldn't trust him. That he is having just friendly conersations means nothing. If he wanted to contact her in some way without you seeing it, he would find that way. And continue doing what he did.
Stay strong! You are better off without that trash! Be thankful you found out what a person he really is, you deserve so much better!! Hugs <3

[TwoThree]

And I would also add that the fact that their exchange is "friendly" through PM's on that website doesn't mean that, now that you're "onto them" they didn't figure out a way to continue their business through another medium.

I wish you all the best. You made the right decision and deserve much better than this.

[Benni]

That's what I've been thinking -- they're doing it somewhere else. Oh well, move on Benni!

[libelle]

Even if they aren't, Benni, that's the thing with the trust - even if by some miracle you decide to stay with him, you would never look on your relationship the same way you did until this moment. There would always be the "what if"s and "maybe"s

[TooFarAway]

>_< I've been kind of a silent bystander...
But I just want to give you my support! That type of guy is trash. I know you're a wonderful women and deserve so much better!
(And I wish I could take you with all your friends here out for drinks xD and go to a male strip club and drown our sorrows and have fun >u<)