My s.o. and I have been together for 11 months tomorrow. When we see each other (about once per month) there is nothing better. We harmonize.
Here's my issue:
The last couple of times I've brought up the fact that I miss her she has gotten mad and pulled away. She feels I am pushing to close the gap, even though we both talk about it as if it were a done deal. We went from the greatest expressions of love and enthusiasm to what feels to me like a muted agreement to stay together. In her defense she has started a new job and has two kids she is raising. She still talks about our future and the things we are planning to do together, but her enthusiasm is down. I still have the rush of passion but I feel like I can't express it or she will see me as codependent and needy. At this point I am finding joy in other things about my life and I have a lot to look forward and enjoy. This feels like a phase and she is a very honest person so I believe she would tell me if she was having second thoughts.
She has said she's worried that she will never fulfill my needs which is odd because when she tries she does a great job. It confuses me and gets me wondering whether she's right.
Anyone else been through this and what advice do you have if so.
We are both over 40 so the game of love isn't new. We have (or had) an incredible connection and I'd like to bring it back if possible.
Here's my issue:
The last couple of times I've brought up the fact that I miss her she has gotten mad and pulled away. She feels I am pushing to close the gap, even though we both talk about it as if it were a done deal. We went from the greatest expressions of love and enthusiasm to what feels to me like a muted agreement to stay together. In her defense she has started a new job and has two kids she is raising. She still talks about our future and the things we are planning to do together, but her enthusiasm is down. I still have the rush of passion but I feel like I can't express it or she will see me as codependent and needy. At this point I am finding joy in other things about my life and I have a lot to look forward and enjoy. This feels like a phase and she is a very honest person so I believe she would tell me if she was having second thoughts.
She has said she's worried that she will never fulfill my needs which is odd because when she tries she does a great job. It confuses me and gets me wondering whether she's right.
Anyone else been through this and what advice do you have if so.
We are both over 40 so the game of love isn't new. We have (or had) an incredible connection and I'd like to bring it back if possible.
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