You all have probably seen or nearly all of you have seen my last post. I feel so betrayed. He kept lying and breaking promises. He keeps hurting me and all he can do is say sorry. It's not enough anymore. He wants to remain friends and "better" ourselves. He said that changing his status to single was part of the breakup process and it's "just a status on Facebook." He doesn't seem to give a shit about anything he does and how it makes me feel. He said maybe down the road after we "fix" ourselves, we can get back together. Why should I? Why should I remain friends with someone who wasn't even a good boyfriend to me? So he can feel better for hurting me constantly? He LIED. Repeatedly. Yeah, he didn't cheat (so he says), but he LIED about other stuff. How can I forgive him or even trust him again? Being dumped 4 times for no real reason. Would any of you remain friends with your ex after he dumped you for stupid shit? No, I don't think so. I think you all would be just like me and say "Forget him."
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Yes, we probably would.I think you all would be just like me and say "Forget him."
So why is the title of the thread "I don't know what to do"?Last edited by silvermoonfairy3; September 30, 2014, 02:37 PM. -
I remained friends with my exes who all did stupid shit. But not right away, not even after a short while, that took time. And not with the "maybe we will get back together" hanging over our heads. My ex is so much nicer as a friend than a lover, because as a friend I am not expected to fix everything in her life and failing, I can just be a friend, it is so much more clean.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
"Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visitsComment
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I wouldn't. I am not friends with any of my exes.Originally posted by silvermoonfairy3 View Post
Relationship began: 05/22/2012
First Met: 03/21/2013 - 03/30/2013
Second Visit: 06/06/2013 - 08/21/2013 ~ Proposal: 07/06/2013 ♥
Third Visit: 10/09/2013 - 01/08/2013
Closed the distance: 11/20/2014 ♥
Married: 1/24/2015
Became Resident: 9/14/2015Comment
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I meant that to go with the "I think you'd all just be like me and say forget him" part, I quoted too much of the OP.Originally posted by snow View PostComment
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I think silvermoon meant we would say "Forget him".
And I agree with the sentiment. Obviously you are miserable in this relationship. It might be for the better to end it.I thought of you and the years and all the sadness fell away from me - Pink FloydComment
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Cut your losses. Sounds like you're already thinking that way anyway.
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I read both of your posts. You know in your heart keeping the relationship ended is the right thing to do. Trust me, I understand. I did the long-distance, break up & make up routine with someone for over 6 years. I can honestly say he was the first man I truly loved (and I was 29 when we met) but the relationship was the most toxic one I had ever been in. Though it was hard, it was the right thing for us to break up and finally not look back or try again.
Don't blame yourself. Don't do the "what-if's"and the "if only's". Don't try to figure him out or why he's doing this. In this situation, the wanting to stay friends is a way for him to keep that tie with you and keep you hanging with just a bit of hope. Make a clean break. Just walk away with your head held high and tell yourself - NEVER again.To those who dream, nothing is ever far away.
Distance is to love as wind is to fire. It blows out the little ones and fans the big ones.
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Because I wasn't sure what else to title it. I was still torn.Originally posted by silvermoonfairy3 View PostComment
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I am thinking that way. It just seems like nothing will change. What's to guarantee he will be any different the second time around?Originally posted by Redheart14 View PostComment
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I am miserable. Every time I think things are going right, I'm slammed in the face with something new.Originally posted by TwoThree View PostComment
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That's exactly what is happening. Keep me hanging with just a bit of hope.Originally posted by R&R View PostComment
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Seems like you know what you need to do then. Hope you feel better soon.Originally posted by lilspitfire View Post
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Isn't this more like the fifth time around?Originally posted by lilspitfire View Post
It sucks, and I'm sorry it's not going how you'd hoped, but it really does sound like you'll be better in the long run by cutting ties.
Good luck.Comment
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Trust is the foundation+
He has betrayed your trust. You can't expect to have a future with someone you don't trust. You can and will find someone who will treat you better. Let things go. You can only manage yourself and you have a right to feel secure.Originally posted by lilspitfire View PostComment
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