Heres the thing, sometimes I overthink in realtionships and ruin everything because im so suspicious of everything, But in this case I dont know if its my anxiety or if its real! Since i've known him, he has been so nice, easy to converse with, patient with me, and seemingly open, still...I had to google him..
1. I googled some of our early conversations and saw that some of the responses he gave me came up in search. The love poems n stuff are normal, but one time I asked him about something he was proud about in his childhood, and I found that same response in Quora.
2. I searched him on facebook and I saw that he has 3 inactive accounts. One is a normal one that has a comment from his older brother ( that led me to the rest of his family, I was creeping so hard) The other has a few more older pictures of him but his friends list are all women with a similar look (slightly chubby black women) the last one is a more recent (last active 2017) account with nothing on it but a picture of him.
3. One day he was explaining something to me about his passport and he sent me a screenshot of his passport, immidetely deleted it on skype, then when I asked him about it, he sent me a different one. He told me they made a mistake on his information and he never really paied attention to it for some months until he tried to use it somewhere. The one he deleted had someone elses name as the person listed under "Familiar Cuidadano de la Union" (Spain passport) the one he re sent was more current and has his fathers name as the family member.
We have met 2 times, once in a mutual location where we got a hotel and vacationed together, and another time when I visited his home. Both times everything seemed normal and we had a great time together. I met some of his friends and they are both married with families, They seem normal. I can call him any time of the night and he immedietely turns on skype to see me and then we usually talk for hours. I've creeped on his family through facebook and they all seem normal. He has never mentioned that he really wants to come to the states, but he did ask if I ever wanted to move to Germany where he relocated to work, I told him that I would if I found a job there and saved money.
I like him a lot, and we have been dating for about 10 months, Anytime i have a issue he wants to discuss and resolve it. but those 3 points keep replaying in my head and its making me feel like maybe this isnt what i think it is. When I brought up Quora he blamed it on him not being comfortable with english at the time we first started talking and he didnt want to sound dumb, so he found somehing on line, i havent asked him about facebook, and he tried to explain away the passport thing, which i find soo wierd.
In May he is suppose to come visit me in the states for 3 weeks. I dont know what to do. part of me feels terrible for thinking bad of him because he never gave me a reason to in person, and part of me thinks I'm too old for this and should run.
1. I googled some of our early conversations and saw that some of the responses he gave me came up in search. The love poems n stuff are normal, but one time I asked him about something he was proud about in his childhood, and I found that same response in Quora.
2. I searched him on facebook and I saw that he has 3 inactive accounts. One is a normal one that has a comment from his older brother ( that led me to the rest of his family, I was creeping so hard) The other has a few more older pictures of him but his friends list are all women with a similar look (slightly chubby black women) the last one is a more recent (last active 2017) account with nothing on it but a picture of him.
3. One day he was explaining something to me about his passport and he sent me a screenshot of his passport, immidetely deleted it on skype, then when I asked him about it, he sent me a different one. He told me they made a mistake on his information and he never really paied attention to it for some months until he tried to use it somewhere. The one he deleted had someone elses name as the person listed under "Familiar Cuidadano de la Union" (Spain passport) the one he re sent was more current and has his fathers name as the family member.
We have met 2 times, once in a mutual location where we got a hotel and vacationed together, and another time when I visited his home. Both times everything seemed normal and we had a great time together. I met some of his friends and they are both married with families, They seem normal. I can call him any time of the night and he immedietely turns on skype to see me and then we usually talk for hours. I've creeped on his family through facebook and they all seem normal. He has never mentioned that he really wants to come to the states, but he did ask if I ever wanted to move to Germany where he relocated to work, I told him that I would if I found a job there and saved money.
I like him a lot, and we have been dating for about 10 months, Anytime i have a issue he wants to discuss and resolve it. but those 3 points keep replaying in my head and its making me feel like maybe this isnt what i think it is. When I brought up Quora he blamed it on him not being comfortable with english at the time we first started talking and he didnt want to sound dumb, so he found somehing on line, i havent asked him about facebook, and he tried to explain away the passport thing, which i find soo wierd.
In May he is suppose to come visit me in the states for 3 weeks. I dont know what to do. part of me feels terrible for thinking bad of him because he never gave me a reason to in person, and part of me thinks I'm too old for this and should run.
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