First, do not propose to her. The worst thing you can do when you're having problems in your relationship is take it a step further into something like engagement, marriage, kids, ect. It will just magnify all the problems you're already having and likely create more. Think about it, you're already uncomfortable with her behavior as her girlfriend, how would you feel as her finacee? (ignore my lack of accent marks, google chrome spell check doesn't have them)
Now, everyone has already told you about how snooping is wrong so I won't give my opinion on it (it's the same thing anyway). What I will say is you need to fess up that you keep doing it. Tell her to change her passwords to whatever you have passwords to. You obviously don't do well when the temptation is there so it's best to just take the access away. After that, wait until she calms down before you mention what you saw in the message. Just relax, and be completely honest. Have you told her the reason you have trust issues? If she gets defensive, you can't really blame her for it. You stated you guys already have a history of lack of trust. Just explain yourself, and then let her explain herself. Don't just hear each other, listen to each other.
If you feel like you absolutely cannot trust her, can't handle not having access to her facebook, or anything similar then it would be best to break it off for a while. You have a lot of trust issues to work on and really shouldn't be in any relationship until you learn how to trust again. I know what I'm talking about here. There's a reason I went two years single before Enrique. I had to work on all my issues before I was ready to try anything with anyone. Only one I couldn't do on my own was the drugs, but that a completely different category of issues that hopefully doesn't apply to you.
Now, everyone has already told you about how snooping is wrong so I won't give my opinion on it (it's the same thing anyway). What I will say is you need to fess up that you keep doing it. Tell her to change her passwords to whatever you have passwords to. You obviously don't do well when the temptation is there so it's best to just take the access away. After that, wait until she calms down before you mention what you saw in the message. Just relax, and be completely honest. Have you told her the reason you have trust issues? If she gets defensive, you can't really blame her for it. You stated you guys already have a history of lack of trust. Just explain yourself, and then let her explain herself. Don't just hear each other, listen to each other.
If you feel like you absolutely cannot trust her, can't handle not having access to her facebook, or anything similar then it would be best to break it off for a while. You have a lot of trust issues to work on and really shouldn't be in any relationship until you learn how to trust again. I know what I'm talking about here. There's a reason I went two years single before Enrique. I had to work on all my issues before I was ready to try anything with anyone. Only one I couldn't do on my own was the drugs, but that a completely different category of issues that hopefully doesn't apply to you.
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