How long have you been in an LDR?

[Talent_2]

I was just wondering how long everybody has been in an LDR?

Basically I've been in mine for a year and the thought that it could be like this for a few more years is extremely depressing.

I got myself into a lot of debt when I was with my ex and am slowly trying to pay it all off, and would ideally like to be debt free before starting a new life living with my SO. Freshstart and all that but I was looking at my finical spreadsheet and I realised that it could take upto 5 years to pay it all off :O

I would be 30 before I could be with him and that breaks my heart! My SO has told me that however long it takes he will be there for me and that we will get there but I can't help wondering is it possible to keep up an LDR for such a long period of time? I've recently started taking on lots of overtime so I can pay off some of the smaller debts quicker but it's just taking so long and I really wanna be with him, it breaks my heart to leave him everytimewe see each other

Anyone else feel frustrated at the distance having to last so long? How do you cope?

Thank you in advance for any help offered

[My Hearts in Kentucky]

Our relationship has always been an LDR which will be 2 years this Sunday!

[justbreathe]

I've also been in an LDR for a year, a year and two months to be exact. Due to our circumstances, I will be in an LDR for the next three years. College is a lovely and terrible thing. I'm extremely frustrated with the thought of not having him with me for the next few years. I myself am still trying to learn how to cope with this. As always, speaking to my boyfriend has always helped. Communication is definitely key in these types of matters.

[Talent_2]

Yeah talking with my SO definitely helps it's just shard sometimes I try to take things a week at a time so it don't seem so bad but the thought of being happy for a weeks each year and miserable the rest for the next few years is an awful thought that keeps popping into my thoughts lately

[paulawriteslove]

Our relationship has always been LDR, almost 2 years

[justbreathe]

Yeah talking with my SO definitely helps it's just shard sometimes I try to take things a week at a time so it don't seem so bad but the thought of being happy for a weeks each year and miserable the rest for the next few years is an awful thought that keeps popping into my thoughts lately

I feel the exact same way. I don't have much advice, but trust me I know what you're going through <33

[Talent_2]

Mines always been an LDR too first ever though so maybe this is why I'm struggling a little with the separation also I'm a very cuddly person I also don't sleep too well when he's not around which isn't helping me at all emotionally or mentally

[Talent_2]

I feel the exact same way. I don't have much advice, but trust me I know what you're going through <33

Thanks hun, it's good to know I'm not alone, none of my friends really understand just think I must be mad lol or that I'm really strong, funnily enough I don't feel too strong some days

[MissShortie]

it's coming up for a year for me and Clay... and I can't do anything about moving to him till I get my own car which will take me a while....
I want to be able to buy a newer used car that doesn't have 99,000 miles on it, and then also have extra left over for car insurance. Thinking about taking on another job after these 2 trips coming up.

I don't cope very well at all with not being able to just get up and move to him now, when I get in my head thats what I want and I can't do it it makes me so upset

[Moon]

Something like a year and a half, and it'll be that way for a few more years probably. We're pretty OK with it for now, since there's not much we can do about it yet and it means moving internationally for one of us. We want to be really, really sure before we make plans.

[xMesmerize124]

My relationship as always been long distance, and so according to my signature i have been in an LDR for 5 months, 3 weeks, and 1 day :]

[bluepotato1236]

I have been with my Fiance for 1year and 5 months this thursday..:-) We are so far from each other so visiting is so hard. I last (first) saw him was in January 2010. So its been 9months plus since that. And we are still unable to have a clear plan when we will meet again/move. He works more than 40hours a week. And he cant take a long holiday. It wont be worth if he come here only for weekend as all the time will only be for the flight. The flight to be here is vary from 22hours and above (including stops/transits at Seattle & Korea). He came here for 10days + 2 days (for flight). Even that when he back he lose his job, which double our frustration. I dont have much off too. I only have 12days off and i already took 7days of it while he is here and 2days of it for my brother wedding. And the visa thing is so frustrating. And last month i got letter from the government to ask me to pay my student loans and i am not allowed to go out from the country. This is a total shocked for both of us and it ruined the plan for the fiance visa.

The only way is he will come here for a long time like 3months and marry me here. But with this we need lots of money. And we plan to have enough money within 12-14months (if we can-we are trying our best). Not only that, that will also mean he will lose his job. It breaks our heart. I just hope that we will find a better plan soon.

How we cope the frustration? We try not to think how soon we will be together and just enjoy the moment together. But of course sometimes it is hard to handle the frustration..

Best of Luck for your LDR!:-)

[Thad]

I have a little countdown/count-up app on my dashboard on my mac. I set it to the day we became long distance...
785 Days or a little over two years...
Now only 225 days to go until I move back with her.

[loveonspeedial]

It'll be two months since we've been LD in a couple of days, we've seen each other like 5 times though? We're very lucky.

[Laura024]

6 months. We have yet to meet in person.