School Bullying

[Karringtyn]

I have great kids. I am a proud Mom. When I was made aware that my son was being bullied last night...I got hurt...felt like that kid in HS again...but when I was made aware he is being bullied because of me...well.....no holds bar.

There are a couple of his "friends" making fun of him because his Mom met her "man" online...oh it goes on and on...but that is the point.

Kids will be kids...but I guess I never realized the impact of me being in a LDR relationshp from online would affect my children.

Funny thing is...It's ALMOST been a year.

There is more to the story...but that is the main point. My ex and I are in unison with this...and he is truly sticking by me....things were said about his gf as well.

Kids are just mean. Now the kids are begging my son to lie and say it didn't happen cuz they are in serious trouble...and they are all on the football team together with my son.
There is a ZERO bullying tolerance in the school district.

I have to take the emotion out of the equation and just deal with what is at hand.

[Silviar]

I hope you talk to the principal and they take care of this in the school. I know some administrations are a complete joke, but bullying should have zero tolerance. Nothing good comes from it. How is your kiddo holding out? He ok?

[Caitlin2009]

Well dont tell your son to lie about it because these kids need to learn a lesson, and they will keep doing it to him if they think its ok to get away with it if he doesnt say anything. me and Denise were both bullied in school and its the most horrible thing to ever endure, the things that people said to me years ago sometimes still affects me, and you need to teach your son that what they are doing to him is not cool at all and they need to be punished, because bullying can lead to kids becoming depressed enough to self harm themselves. So he needs to say what they did because nobody deserves to be treated like that ever

[nicole]

oh dear I hope he's ok? I hope the school is doing something about it, I know when I was in High school, I just suffered in silence- it is definitely not the right way to go believe me.

Kids are ridiculous, they can make someones life a misery over the smallest things, I don't think they realize just how they effect the person they are doing it to. It makes them feel better about themselves, it's sad they have to put some one else down to do that

[JoMarie]

Goodness. I hope your son is alright, because that's the most important thing. I also hope that the school is going to deal with these kids picking on him for a silly reason. Love knows no distance. You can't make your heart not love someone because they are far! Ugh kids are mean.

[Tanja]

Tell your son NOT TO LIE. The bullies deserve a punishment!

I was bullied in school and I never told anyone because the kids who bullied me said they'd be my friends if I kept my mouth shut... So I did but take a guess if they changed their ways.. yeah, stupid of me to believe them.

Bullying can leave some deep scars for the rest of your life even if it's over the littlest thing... Kids are very easily influenced and they will not forget about things easily. If parents/teachers don't budge in and do the right thing kids will not trust them to help the next time they need it.

Is your son ok? I hope you can deal with the bullies asap and make sure they never ever do it again. BULLYING SOMEONE IS NOT COOL!

[elina]

Mmmmmhmm.. bullying sucks alright.

I was bullied too.. for years, told my teacher about it and he was just like "oh they just like you ^_^" Idiot.

I hope your son is ok and that the school will put a stop to it straight away. I hate bullies.

[Caitlin2009]

Mmmmmhmm.. bullying sucks alright.

I was bullied too.. for years, told my teacher about it and he was just like "oh they just like you ^_^" Idiot.

I hope your son is ok and that the school will put a stop to it straight away. I hate bullies.

my mom said the same thing when i told her and she was like "well they just have crushes on you and dont know how to say it" im like yeaaah mom everybody including the girls have crushes on me okaaaay then. I did tell people but they didnt have the zero tolerance policy then so when i told it would stop for a few weeks then start up again, i just gave up telling people after awhile :/

[NaNi]

I was bullied too. For years. The teachers never did anything though. "Don't listen to them", yeah. Lovely.

[elina]

my mom said the same thing when i told her and she was like "well they just have crushes on you and dont know how to say it" im like yeaaah mom everybody including the girls have crushes on me okaaaay then. I did tell people but they didnt have the zero tolerance policy then so when i told it would stop for a few weeks then start up again, i just gave up telling people after awhile :/

It's horrible, isn't it.. how people won't take something like that seriously. I was so hurt when my teacher said what he did.. I even remember the moment I told him.. and I kinda felt like kicking him or something. He was a bit of a jerk anyway.. but that is totally not the way to go, especially when you're a teacher and someone comes to you telling you that they're being bullied. Yeah, I guess some of them might just be playing with you but I think that's something you should always take seriously. God knows how bad it could get unless you intervene.

Makes me kinda pissed off

[Caitlin2009]

I was bullied too. For years. The teachers never did anything though. "Don't listen to them", yeah. Lovely.

had that said to me as well, its kinda hard not to listen when sometimes they litterly back you into a corner and do it, felt like crawling in a hole and dying anytime that happened

It's horrible, isn't it.. how people won't take something like that seriously. I was so hurt when my teacher said what he did.. I even remember the moment I told him.. and I kinda felt like kicking him or something. He was a bit of a jerk anyway.. but that is totally not the way to go, especially when you're a teacher and someone comes to you telling you that they're being bullied. Yeah, I guess some of them might just be playing with you but I think that's something you should always take seriously. God knows how bad it could get unless you intervene.

Makes me kinda pissed off

oh yeah pisses me off too, that why when me and Denise have kids we will instill in them that its wrong for them to bully someone and if someone bullies them tell someone ASAP, and if they see someone being bullied step up and protect that person

[elina]

oh yeah pisses me off too, that why when me and Denise have kids we will instill in them that its wrong for them to bully someone and if someone bullies them tell someone ASAP, and if they see someone being bullied step up and protect that person

I might teach our kids a lesson too if they started bullying others.. Who knows.. that might not even do anything, kids today.. they're crazy

But yeah.. if our kids come to me/us saying they're being bullied, the bullies will be in serious trouble.

[LadyMarchHare]

This may not mean much, but it's not your fault the kids are saying that to him. You can't blame yourself.

Online relationships for people over 25 or so are seen as desperation, as far as I've noticed. Sometimes it's true, I had a friend from church years ago who kept moving and coming back because her mom would meet these men and marry them within months of seeing them online and move only to return penniless because they took her money. Really it's not the situation that's desperate, it's the person.

How old is your son, or what grade at least? That sort of stuff sounds like middle school grade bullying, but I know high school kids can be as bad. I know how stressful that can be on you both, but if that's all that little piss-ant can rag on your kid about, be glad. Just tell him that a kid's opinion on his mom's happiness matters as much as the man on the moon and that he knows you're happy and that's all that matters.

[squiddie]

I was bullied growing up as well. And unfortunately, telling a bullied kid to stand up for themselves is often the worst advice. Because, odds are, they're trying to, and it's not making a lick of difference.

For starters, you really should have a word with an administrator or a teacher with whom you have a good relationship and can help you deal with what is likely to be a bunch of administrative BS. The problem with "zero tolerance" policies is that schools are often reluctant to then act upon them. However, all actions have consequences, and these kids need to learn that. It might make life worse for your son for a while, but I think in the long run (the very long run), it'll turn out okay. His friends will side with him and know he did the right thing. And if only a few are with him, well, it's better than none. Small victories, Luce. Small victories.

Furthermore, what business of theirs is your personal life? Your son is allowed to share news of his life, but they have no right to judge him or mock him mercilessly for his parents' lives. Or his, really, but that's not the point right now.

[blankita719]

I'm so sorry your son has to go through this. It really isn't those other kids business how you met your SO, but kids these days are crueler than ever when it comes to things like that. My ex pulled some stunts, and I dread the day that my son becomes aware of these for fear that he might get picked on for his father's actions. As a mother, all I can do is keep instilling in him that bullying is wrong, and if he is being bullied to let me know so mom can handle it...