I've been dragging this out for so long

[Swederica]

First of all i want to thank you all for your encouraging words.

Katelyn were on bday parties, that's like all parties she goes to, when i was in Sweden. Back then i didn't really care. I don't know what happened. But i guess the distance makes you not think about what she was up to.
It's strange it really is. But i will work on it.

Thanks to all your posts and helps i've had my best day so far this week. I thank you so much! It means alot and i'm hoping to get out of atleast this mess soon. Tomorrow she will be coming over after one of our longest breaks, they are unusual and it's typical it would come now with all this crap going on. Then i can give her a ring i've bought her to show i do love her, no not an engagement ring hehe.

[Dauntedpoet]

I am glad you've had a good day. I agree with the other opinions about you're being stressed out and overwhelmed. Hugs for that! If you love her, and she loves you, work on letting it go.

[mo_ging_forever]

think about it this way... if she didnt want you around... IF she didnt want to be with you anymore...she wouldnt be. right?
no one's forcing her.
you guys are still in a relationship cause you BOTH want to be.
she loves, thats why she's with you despite the distance.


i dont think you should feel unwelcome at all, but i understand WHY you feel that way..
and about the dance, the SAME exact situation happened to me...a week ago...
my bf told me everything, he said he was really awkward and that it was only for a second...
bit it still hurts.
it still CUTS YOU UP inside.. it hurts cause she's YOURS... no one else should hold her/him...
and at the end of it you dont know if you're making it into a bigger deal than it should be....
:P well, thats how i felt anyway. haha..

[mo_ging_forever]

i bet she'll love the ring so happy for youu!!

[paulawriteslove]

So we've heard from the girls. =P

From a guy's perspective, I might be just as upset. Yes, I'm aware, a dance is just a dance. In the long run, I'm not sure it would really matter to me. But in the short run, it would certainly eat me up inside.

But I think you should weigh all of these feelings and these doubts with how much you trust her.

In the long run, remember, you moved there to be with her. You obviously trust her enough to unseat your life and move somewhere else. If she says it wasn't a big deal, then it wasn't a big deal.

Personally, I would go to her myself and tell her how I felt. Perhaps there's something more she could say to reassure you. There's nothing wrong with being a little insecure and if you can be transparent with anyone, it's the woman you want to spend your life with.

Every time someone has a problem with their S/O they go to someone for help. It's understandable, you want to talk to someone who isn't involved in the situation, someone who can be objective. A lot of times we don't think to talk to our S/O because we'd have to be vulnerable.

Until mind reading is invented, the only way you're ever going to know what someone is thinking for sure is by asking them.

I think that this is really great advice! To us girls a dance could just be a dance, but to a guy it could be different. Best of luck!

[twicedouble]

I think that this is really great advice! To us girls a dance could just be a dance, but to a guy it could be different. Best of luck!

Oftentimes it is different for guys. I don't dance a lot, but I have, and I've only ever danced with a girl I like. (at least in a one on one setting...group setting is a bit different) So I see a dance with a guy as something more. I know my girl doesn't LIKE to dance, but she does go out dancing because her friends like it. I don't get jealous, she's only going to be with her friends and I have no problems with that.