Promise rings

[Beastofknowledge]

Yours is quite pretty, but I sometimes think they're a little unnecessary. I think it should be simply understood for a couple to plan to stay together.

And if he wants to give you a ring, then hey, he should just do it! There's no need for a reason.

Personally, I think this whole "promise ring" deal was created by jewelery chains *cough*Zales*cough* who are just looking for another reason to get our money. Especially since they're aimed at a target group that are not big jewelery purchasers--teens. At least not quality jewelery, though I don't think most chain jewelers really sell good quality jewelery.

Yeah but you don't have to buy the branded "promise rings" from certain jewelery brands. Its the gesture that counts surely? Although the rings Ive seen here on this post are pretty good quality from what Ive seen, and I am sure if you get a promise ring you want it to stand the test of time untill you tie the knot...

[squiddie]

Yeah but you don't have to buy the branded "promise rings" from certain jewelery brands. Its the gesture that counts surely? Although the rings Ive seen here on this post are pretty good quality from what Ive seen, and I am sure if you get a promise ring you want it to stand the test of time untill you tie the knot...

That's logical, but still. If you want to buy her a ring, why not just buy her a ring out of simple goodwill as opposed to needing a reason?

[Beastofknowledge]

That's logical, but still. If you want to buy her a ring, why not just buy her a ring out of simple goodwill as opposed to needing a reason?

I see your point...Yes, out of goodwill they are wonderful, but the notion of it keeping you together...its a very strong message.

[squiddie]

I see your point...Yes, out of goodwill they are wonderful, but the notion of it keeping you together...its a very strong message.

So is an engagement ring.

[Kimme]

I wanted one before he left for germany. At first he was really into it. Then he got scared about spending money and what if we don't make it. I got a Teddy bear to sleepmwith instead. I wish I had one still. I would love to wear something that showed how much he loves me.

I love your ring though it's very pretty.

[mrsbubbles]

So is an engagement ring.

Sometimes people don't have the money to spend on an engagement ring, but still want to express the feeling of commitment. Also, what if you know you won't be married to your partner for several years or that you know it'll happen, but the time is indefinite? Some people simply don't enjoy long engagements. Some people prefer just an engagement ring and others enjoy the notion of a Promise ring. Different people, different tastes, you know?

And as for your argument about it being a concept created by chain Jewelers, the same thing can be applied to Valentine's Day, Mother's & Father's Day. Does it make it any less special? Not really.

[Beastofknowledge]

So is an engagement ring.

Fair play...

[squiddie]

Sometimes people don't have the money to spend on an engagement ring, but still want to express the feeling of commitment. Also, what if you know you won't be married to your partner for several years or that you know it'll happen, but the time is indefinite? Some people simply don't enjoy long engagements. Some people prefer just an engagement ring and others enjoy the notion of a Promise ring. Different people, different tastes, you know?

And as for your argument about it being a concept created by chain Jewelers, the same thing can be applied to Valentine's Day, Mother's & Father's Day. Does it make it any less special? Not really.

It just seems all a little ridiculous to me (and that includes holidays invented to increase revenue--yes I am the bitter, black-hearted person who hates Valentine's Day).

I realize that the notion of a token has been around for ages -- wearing someone's pin or class ring, for example. I just feel like people are seeing this as a way to capitalize. At least with the original, it was something that had belonged to the SO.

I know not everyone has money for engagement rings. My SO and I are in that situation at the moment, but I don't want a promise ring. I want him to save his money. The setting for the ring I like isn't much more than your average good quality promise ring (my mom offered me her engagement ring, but it's too big and I don't like yellow gold, so we're going to reset the stone).

Maybe this is just me being snobby, but promise rings are usually cheaply made, with inferior quality, and then have the price jacked up about 1000%. And if they're not engagement rings, why do nearly all of them look like they are?

[mrsbubbles]

It just seems all a little ridiculous to me (and that includes holidays invented to increase revenue--yes I am the bitter, black-hearted person who hates Valentine's Day).

I realize that the notion of a token has been around for ages -- wearing someone's pin or class ring, for example. I just feel like people are seeing this as a way to capitalize. At least with the original, it was something that had belonged to the SO.

I know not everyone has money for engagement rings. My SO and I are in that situation at the moment, but I don't want a promise ring. I want him to save his money. The setting for the ring I like isn't much more than your average good quality promise ring (my mom offered me her engagement ring, but it's too big and I don't like yellow gold, so we're going to reset the stone).

Maybe this is just me being snobby, but promise rings are usually cheaply made, with inferior quality, and then have the price jacked up about 1000%. And if they're not engagement rings, why do nearly all of them look like they are?

It's only capitalizing if you make it that way, imho. I never thought of it as such, and never will, because I value the emotion behind the gift and the token (because it doesn't even need to be a ring, but it can be a necklace or even a pair of earrings). Perhaps I'm a little ignorant of the whole promise ring marketing, but I never thought there are rings that are specifically made and labeled as Promise Rings? I thought the only way a ring was a promise ring is if your SO deemed it as such, nothing more. Please correct me if I'm wrong though!

My ring is simple, with a white gold band with a single pearl. The pearl was picked by him (by opening an oyster) in Disney, which has a lot of emotional significance to us, and put that on the ring. It wasn't that expensive at all and the ring is very elegant.

I think where our opinions differ is that you dislike them from a marketing aspect and I love them because of the sentiment behind it. Which is fine! Like I said before, different people have different tastes.

[squiddie]

I think where our opinions differ is that you dislike them from a marketing aspect and I love them because of the sentiment behind it. Which is fine! Like I said before, different people have different tastes.

I believe you're correct.

I'm not a sentimental person at all...I kind of fail at being a girlfriend for this reason.

[true_survivor_586]

my so brought me a ring back from iraq on his two weeks leave, i wear it on my left middle finger, i dont have it on a ring finger cause that is ment for the engagement/wedding ring in my mind, he doesnt have one but if he did he cant wear it any who ha
p.s. mine is also in the shape of the heart yours is very pretty