Parents interfering in my LDR!

[Beastofknowledge]

I am a very stable and happy LDR. He came over in the summer to meet both sets of my divorced parents, and got along great with my dad , but my mum hated him and hates him now . She said "if he really loves you he will let you go". I want to go see him in the xmas holidays, and my dads fine with that, not that either parent can stop me going with me being nearly 18, but mum isn't happy. All I want is for her to be happy with my relationship...I know it may not be the usual, normal relationship, but its working. It really is. Her attitude is getting me down, I am "pathetic" and have "sad sad" relationship in her eyes.
What do I do?
Thanks.

[Caitlin2009]

ignore her and continue your plans! maybe your mom is jelous because you have a sucessful relationship and she doesnt yet

[Beastofknowledge]

she does. She had remarried to my lovely stepfather. I think she doesn't want me to screw up like she did...but still, I still wish I had her OK in this...

[Caitlin2009]

oh ok, well i understand her not wanting you to make the same mistakes but in the long run its your decision and she cant do anything about it, all you can do is ignore her when she says crap like that

[Veronica]

I think your mom is probably really scared about you getting you heart broken. Im sure she went through some really tough times when she divorced your dad and doesnt want you to go through anything remotly like that. My mom had a hard time accepting my relationship too at first, and it ended up being because of that, specially since i was moving so far away from her to start uni, and i had to be focused. She completely changed her mind after some time, when my bf showed her how much i mean to him, and after i had a good chat with her about how very much in love i am, and how i rather give this LDR a chance. Maybe if you talked to her and try to explain how you feel about your bf? i bet she is just worried about you, moms do that a lot

[sam]

Prove her wrong

[Beastofknowledge]

I have done. I said he made me feel beautiful, loved, astounding...everything..., that he meant the world to me. She just shakes her head at me and says I am fool. Geez...nothing I say changes her opinion of him. Thanks for the advice though

[Beastofknowledge]

She says he was arrogant, rude. She says this won't last. We intend to prove her wrong, she'll see

[Veronica]

aww im sorry to hear that, maybe just give her some time, if your relationship is strong and healthy at some point your mom is gonna have to admit that she was wrong. I hope it turns out good for you

[Caitlin2009]

She says he was arrogant, rude. She says this won't last. We intend to prove her wrong, she'll see

:/ defiantly ignore her anytime she says those types of things because i have a feeling he was non of those things, i can understand trying to protect you but shes going over the line with saying those things

[Beastofknowledge]

I hope so. We argued about whether we should stay together because of her...but we decided to stay together...another reason for her to call me an idiot. I hope it works out. He's in germany and I am in england, so its not that far tbh.

[Beastofknowledge]

:/ defiantly ignore her anytime she says those types of things because i have a feeling he was non of those things, i can understand trying to protect you but shes going over the line with saying those things

Well thats what I have to put up with...Its unfair. To my Other half, she's almost like the evil mother-in-law with all these comments...

[Caitlin2009]

I hope so. We argued about whether we should stay together because of her...but we decided to stay together...another reason for her to call me an idiot. I hope it works out. He's in germany and I am in england, so its not that far tbh.

yeah dont let her rule over your relationship if you guys really love each other otherwise she'll do that with all your other relationships(if you have anymore) in the future

[Shortstock]

Well thats what I have to put up with...Its unfair. To my Other half, she's almost like the evil mother-in-law with all these comments...

the question now: is how do I convince her mother....
Her dad and her stepmom love me...so there is no way I was uncourteous...and should I have been I have no Idea what I did do to upset her that much.....

[Tanja]

Mothers often are over protective of their kids and still think of them as "kids" even though they'd be adults or nearly adults...

I think she is just old-fashioned and worried that you're dating someone you didn't meet "traditionally"... How long have you guys been together? It can be hard for her to understand how deeply you feel for each other since you are LD and can't physically be together... You're also still young in her eyes and she might think this is just a fling and it's not good for you.

the only thing you can do is tell her that she's hurting you and insulting you everytime she says something negative about your relationship and prove her wrong by making this last, ending the distance, getting married and living happily ever after

Mum's can't always easily admit they were wrong but they are capable of it