So recently two of my closest friends, who have both been in long-term relationships (2 years and 3 years) have been a lot of problems.
R and her boyfriend are temporarily somewhat long distance (4 hours), as she graduated this past spring and is now in an internship for her career. Her boyfriend graduates in December, so it's almost, as he'll be moving back in with his dad. His dad lives about 20 minutes from R's apartment. But they've been fighting a LOT the last few months, in fact it seems like it's all they do now. R basically said that it's only good when they're not talking.
A and his girlfriend moved in together this past summer. He's finishing up his bachelor's degree, and she's in her last year of her master's (she finished her bachelor's in 3 years)...and they've sort of stalled. The relationship has become increasingly one-sided, with A being the only one putting effort in...and as a result, he's realized he's also seriously falling for a good friend. He's addressed this with his girlfriend, and they're taking it one day at a time, but...he's not sure how it will turn out.
And all of this is making me worried. I mean, Penn and I have been together for two years, and LD for the better part of those years. We're still completely okay. We almost never fight, though we do get annoyed with each other. But we get over it and move on.
But a part of me wonders how much of this is because we never see each other. I mean, I've seen him a total of two months in the last twelve, and we go through long stretches of not talking to each other. Maybe we haven't fought because the opportunity hasn't presented itself. Maybe things are only okay because we've been apart more than we've been together.
Deep down, I know I'm overreacting. Penn and I are a strong couple--we went from seeing each other every day and practically living together to having maybe a few days every few months. He is the darn best thing that's ever happened to me. We've been making this work, and we'll continue to make it work.
But closing the distance is becoming more and more real, even though it's still several months away (July or August 2011). And when I'm seeing the problems that my friends are having, friends whose relationships I always considered more stable than my own, and it makes me scared for it. Nothing feels concrete right now, and it makes me feel uneasy. I just wish there was something in my future that was certain.
R and her boyfriend are temporarily somewhat long distance (4 hours), as she graduated this past spring and is now in an internship for her career. Her boyfriend graduates in December, so it's almost, as he'll be moving back in with his dad. His dad lives about 20 minutes from R's apartment. But they've been fighting a LOT the last few months, in fact it seems like it's all they do now. R basically said that it's only good when they're not talking.
A and his girlfriend moved in together this past summer. He's finishing up his bachelor's degree, and she's in her last year of her master's (she finished her bachelor's in 3 years)...and they've sort of stalled. The relationship has become increasingly one-sided, with A being the only one putting effort in...and as a result, he's realized he's also seriously falling for a good friend. He's addressed this with his girlfriend, and they're taking it one day at a time, but...he's not sure how it will turn out.
And all of this is making me worried. I mean, Penn and I have been together for two years, and LD for the better part of those years. We're still completely okay. We almost never fight, though we do get annoyed with each other. But we get over it and move on.
But a part of me wonders how much of this is because we never see each other. I mean, I've seen him a total of two months in the last twelve, and we go through long stretches of not talking to each other. Maybe we haven't fought because the opportunity hasn't presented itself. Maybe things are only okay because we've been apart more than we've been together.
Deep down, I know I'm overreacting. Penn and I are a strong couple--we went from seeing each other every day and practically living together to having maybe a few days every few months. He is the darn best thing that's ever happened to me. We've been making this work, and we'll continue to make it work.
But closing the distance is becoming more and more real, even though it's still several months away (July or August 2011). And when I'm seeing the problems that my friends are having, friends whose relationships I always considered more stable than my own, and it makes me scared for it. Nothing feels concrete right now, and it makes me feel uneasy. I just wish there was something in my future that was certain.
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