Would you end it..

[Insanity]

I can kind of relate to her, I have those kind of thoughts about my SO but I'm paranoid and a worrier. I wouldn't say I hear things but I have those thoughts running through my head. Maybe that is what she means, in that cases she is probably scared of getting hurt. I wouldn't be worried about that, maybe you need to talk to her more about it.

If she is actually hearing voices that aren't her own inner dialogue maybe suggest seeing a doctor. I personally wouldn't find that to be a deal breaker, but I'm a pretty forgiving, tolerant person.

[LadyMarchHare]

I agree with this. Encourage her to get help. If it were me, and she refused to get help, I would have to break up until she did.
IMO, those are things you need to be willing to work on before you get into a serious relationship.

To minorly counter, if it's a mental illness, it's harder to say "well I'm sick" because some people are so used to these problems it's normal. That or they're scared of being labeled crazy, in which case support and not "goodbye" is needed more. Some people need a push to get help or to change themselves for the better.

[Silviar]

It would depend on the situation. If she's literally hearing voices, she needs to speak with a medical professional immediately, and she needs your support, at the very least. If it's in her heart, then a sit-down talk (via skype) is in short and immediate order.

[mllebamako]

To minorly counter, if it's a mental illness, it's harder to say "well I'm sick" because some people are so used to these problems it's normal. That or they're scared of being labeled crazy, in which case support and not "goodbye" is needed more. Some people need a push to get help or to change themselves for the better.

What I'm saying, is if she refused to make that change, even if I was trying to push her towards getting help, then I wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship with that person. I could be there as a friend, but for my own emotional well-being, I couldn't do a relationship until she agreed to get help.
Hope that I explained myself better.

[LadyMarchHare]

What I'm saying, is if she refused to make that change, even if I was trying to push her towards getting help, then I wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship with that person. I could be there as a friend, but for my own emotional well-being, I couldn't do a relationship until she agreed to get help.
Hope that I explained myself better.

Yeah, that explains it better, and I agree. It's just a lot more difficult if it's the brain and not her just worrying, which I'm thinking it's the former, because it is, ultimately, more stressful on both parties.

[Michelle]

Michelle: Not everyone who hears voices hears "kill x" ones. I only did once, but I was going through a rough time and it was stress-induced. Also, just because you hear voices doesn't make you schizo, nor does it if you SEE things. There are other underlying factors that require the diagnosis.

I learned in my psychology classes that schizophrenia and other psychosis cause sensory hallucinations. Psychosis is a very broad term and is not a diagnosis, so I wasn't saying she had any particular mental illness. The only other things that may cause them are brain injuries (I took care of a man that had visual hallucinations and was delusional after a stroke) and some medications can cause hallucinations as a side effect. But I doubt that his girlfriend's hallucinations were caused by either of the last two things.

[Chris516]

I learned in my psychology classes that schizophrenia and other psychosis cause sensory hallucinations. Psychosis is a very broad term and is not a diagnosis, so I wasn't saying she had any particular mental illness. The only other things that may cause them are brain injuries (I took care of a man that had visual hallucinations and was delusional after a stroke) and some medications can cause hallucinations as a side effect. But I doubt that his girlfriend's hallucinations were caused by either of the last two things.

I don't know if this could fall under 'hallucination'. But what about what I will call 'false guilt'? Because their guilt centers around something that is not true. Meaning, There guilt has the potential to make them feel they need to end the relationship, LDR or not LDR?

[LadyDaemon]

I don't know if this could fall under 'hallucination'. But what about what I will call 'false guilt'? Because their guilt centers around something that is not true. Meaning, There guilt has the potential to make them feel they need to end the relationship, LDR or not LDR?

You do realize this a dead thread right? lol It hasn't been active in over 2 years. Not trying to be mean but may I suggest checking the last post date and the date the thread was made before you comment on a dead thread.

[Chris516]

You do realize this a dead thread right? lol It hasn't been active in over 2 years. Not trying to be mean but may I suggest checking the last post date and the date the thread was made before you comment on a dead thread.

I know. I thought I would revitalize by replying.

[ThePiedPiper]

I know. I thought I would revitalize by replying.

There is no reason to revitalize a 2 year old thread by a poster who isn't even around anymore. If you want to make your own thread about it, you can make it in the Ramble On section but no point in bumping up something that's old hat.

[NerdyChick]

She needs help, I'm not saying you should break up with her, but she does need to talk to a doctor, and while there is no cure, managing the symptoms can be done, medication and therapy can really help. But she has to want it, she has to want to make it stop and recognize that those voices are not the result of a chemically balanced brain. I know quite a lot about the subjects of mental illnesses: depression, bipolar,schizophrenia, personality disorders, the truth is that only those who recognize the abnormality and truly seek and want help will be the ones to make progress. It can take time for some people to come to the conclusion that they need help, and some will go through their whole lives being unable to recognize the problem. Don't drop the relationship right away, but recognize this isn't something that will just disappear. She has to really want help for herself, you can love her as she is, and love her with all your heart, but you can never love her better. She will need professional help, probably a system of it. You need to do some soul searching to see if this is something you are willing to work with her on, or if this is just too much. There is plenty of material about mental illnesses that can cause auditory hallucinations out there, read up on some. But if she doesn't want to change, you need to ask yourself where you deal breakers lie, it's a lot take on.

[redapple]

GUYS! This is the oldest thread in the world... I think it can be left to die!

[CynicalQuixotic]

Sometimes I wonder if the people here have never been on another forum before. I've never seen so much thread necromancy in my (sadly, quite long for my age) tenure as being From The Internet.

[Markoslav]

removed post I guess this thread is too old sorry